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New-ish and frustrated

Hi ladies! I have not been on this site since I had my DS back in 2009. For 3 years my husband and I have been on and off with TTC. My periods have always been crazy irregular, but recently they started to come in a timely manner with a 28 day cycle. I am now 13 days past my period and I took a pregnancy test (against my better judgement) and it had the two lines but only for a minute and it was very faint. I am trying to keep the mind set that it is just my irregularity starting up again, but my heart will not drop the fact that we so badly want a baby. Any suggestions? Should I call my doctor or not? I cannot really talk to anyone other than my husband about this and I feel like I am going mental.

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I would try to get in and get a blood test done. Good luck.

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There is at this point very valid reasons to call in your Dr. One you feel you are "late" by your recent cycle standards (and not just by a day or two either), and Two you have been TTC for quiet some time.
Fingers crossed you get the answer sooner rather than later.

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Hi and welcome.
I agree with the pp's.
I would see your doc and see what they suggest.
Please let us know and good luck to you
Xxxxxx

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Well, my flow started yesterday Sad I am feeling very frustrated right now. My ob is out until November 5th so I might just try to see my primary doctor and see what he says. My husband is convinced that nothing is wrong, but I don't think it should be this hard for so long. I mean we got pregnant with my son within a year of 'not preventing'. I did not track or anything.

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So sorry Erin. If you will be going for any testing they will want to see charts so if you are not already charting then I would start that.

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Thanks! I have been emailing with my OB and she cannot understand why it is taking so long for us to conceive. She has given me the information for the Fertility department and wants me to call them and schedule a consultation. I am nervous.

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Don't be nervous with talking to the fertility people. Most of the time they are very loving and compassionate people. Good luck.

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Seeing a specialist is probably the best option for you right now. OBs can only do so much unfortunately!

Keep us posted on how the referral goes.

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My husband and I decided to wait until January to talk to a specialist. We will give it two more months of trying. I am tracking my temps and using ovulation test. Giving it everything I have these two months. We have to pay 50% to see a specialist and we would like to try to not have to spend all that money and then have a baby :). I am going to just keep positive thoughts.

This week has been off to a rough start. My best friend just gave birth to a beautiful baby girl and I am so excited, but it is so very hard to be there because it reminds me so much of the pain I feel, but now it is amplified. I feel like I am being selfish, but I cannot be there for more than 30 minutes before I feel like I am gonna break down.

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So I went to my Dr. on Tuesday and she convinced me to call the fertility clinic now instead of waiting because it can take a while to get in to them. She says I will most likely put on medicine to help me ovulate since my periods are fairly irregular. I am nervous because I am not 100% sure what my insurance will cover cost wise. I got a hold of the clinic after 3 days of phone tag and they are sending us a questionnaire that we have to complete before they will do a consultation. I have such mixed emotions about all of this. I had no idea I could feel so optimistic and defeated at the same time.

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:bigarmhug:

Fertility issues are always so hard to deal with. I know when I was seeing my RE I was happy that there was help but hated that I needed it. You grow up thinking that getting pregnant is easy and when it is not we struggle with feeling we are somehow broken.

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I think we all definitely feel defeated by infertility at some point. Right now, you ARE doing something! Moving forward!! That's the best thing ever. And they don't want you to wait. That's great.

Some good news is that if they start you on the normal clomid to try to get some good ovulation going, it is crazy cheap. Like 10 bucks. So don't worry about that right now. I had no ovulation and irregular periods when I started and Clomid was what ended up working, so it might not be horrible for expense.

Keep your chin up hun, you are moving and going somewhere!

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I am also just started see a specialist. I am almost done my investigate cycle - I have a strong idea with is wrong because I have been getting parts of my results back as I go along - all you can do is inquire. DH and I have both said that there are limits to what we will be willing to do - no IVF - but we want to continue to inquire to see what we can do. We will know what is right for us at the time. They can't make you do more then what you are willing to do. At the end you will be able to make an informed decision.

Good luck to you - feel free message me if you want to talk more.

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Hi Erin,
I know I'm kind of late popping in here - how is everything going for you?
Saw you were from Sac and am guessing you have Kaiser..? I'm from the Sac area as well (ok, in TX for school right now...) and my DH had Kaiser thru his work. It was GREAT for all of our fertility testing, which ironically was happening right around the time your son was born in 2009. Smile
For the whole fertility workup, including bloodwork for both of us and SA for DH, it cost us MAYBE $1000 - but our plan covered a lot of it, too. At the fertility seminar that you have to go to before you can start any of the procedures, I know that we found out our fertility costs would be 100% covered.. some were 50% and some couples weren't covered @ all..
And wow, I do remember how it took several days of calling back and forth before being able to set up an appt for the seminar. Smile
DH's work ended up switching to Blue Cross Blue Shield the year after that, so we ended up going to CA IVF for our 2 IUI's - but we reeeeeally wished we'd still had Kaiser because it would have been a much, much easier process..plus costing less $$.

I hope all goes well for you and you get that BFP soon!!!!! Smile KUP! Smile