Ok, I called the place I had been checking out the same time as I had been referred to the other dr.
They have a long line for scheduling, but put us in for an appointment on Feb 25 at 2pm. I have a much better feeling about this place than I did about the last doctor. He was a fertility specialist, but worked in an ob's office. This is an actual fertility clinic.
This is it: http://cnyfertility.com/
I should have done this first instead of going to the other dr.