Okay girls... Time for a catch up !!

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Okay girls... Time for a catch up !!

How is everyone doing?

I know there is much sadness here on the boards.. But some happiness too.

Let's have a kitchen table chat to express everything.

It's well overdue for all of us.
Cake, tea and coffee for all.

Vent, cry, celebrate or just gossip.

For me.. I am waiting to o so I can get this show back on the road... Very scared though... What ifs flow through my brain.

Home life is good.
M is being very good at the mo and it's almost blissful.
We are rehoming puppy in 2 weeks. He goes to a rehoming kennel.
Sad but it has to be done.
Not fair on him to stay with us. He needs a proper life with peole who know what they are doing!

Other than that.. Well.. It's all work and nookie!! Lol xxxx

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Yes, I agree.

Well you are all pretty much up to date with me, but I'll play. Smile

Liz-I can feel your pain with the doggy. We feel the same way, but we have my daughter in the middle so it's not going to happen. Just yesterday while playing with her she scratched the inside of her nose and that little girl bled like crazy. I thought it wouldn't stop. I've never thought I have been a good doggy mom, but we keep trying. :confused:

We are going away in a couple of week for 4 days, 3 nights. It's an amusement park but there are a lot of other things to do in the area so we decided to stay a couple of days. I felt I needed a quick break because I "should" be starting IVF cycle 2 that following week, and that's just a huge stress!

That's pretty much it, trying to relax and enjoy the summer and trying very hard not to dwell on cycle 1.

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Hi sweets

Good to see you.
It is sad about rocco... Think the main problem is he has overbonded with me... Which is a nightmare.
Mind you at the mo he's next to me on the sofa but has to have his paws on me... Very cute.

A break will be brilliant for you.
Just what you need a bit of fun to try and lift your spirits.

So happy to hear that you are doing another round so quickly.
I don't know anything about ivf as I am not in the 'allowed' to have category.
Guessing the break will help recharge your batteries for it all to begin.
Plus it gives you guys a little chance to reconnect.

Xxxxxxxxxx

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Hey Liz hey Marisal, I mainly lurk all the time. I'm up to nine miscarriages. I just did IVF and it failed. I'm going to do another one in September with a different clinic. I'm getting frustrated that I can get pregnant without treatment, but not with it. I told my husband that I want to stop trying, I have 4 kids already.

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Hey Renea, so so sorry about the losses. Have they been able to tell you anything at all as to why you keep MCing. That must be so incredibly frustrating. (((HUGE HUGS))) I mean I don't blame you for wantng to give up that must be so difficult.

Liz-my dog is OVERLY HYPER! I mean she drives us nuts. It's like she is fully charged 24 hours a day. She has gotten better but it's still a whole lot to deal with. What makes her so special to us is tha she is soooo friendly and playful. She is also very loving, but she really does get to us each and every day. I wish mine would sit next to me on the couch, she will do that for MAYBE 5 min at the most, and it's usually because she's tired herself out and needs a quick break. LOL! I wonder a lot about dealing with her while pregnant and then with an infant...

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Hey renae. Great to see you still lurk.
I really miss you.
I too am sorry about your losses.
But what Mari said... Have you got any answers about why you miscarry.
I can't remember what tests you have had.
Have you been tested fir mthfr?
The mutation thing.
That's the cause of mine along with hyper fertility.
Also my mil said she had read about two groups of women with reoccurring miscarriage and one group were given a gluten free duet and the majority had a successful pregnancy.
Goid luck with ivf in September. It's myy birthday month so I'll send you my birthday wishes.

Marisol.... Yeah mine us full on too... Worse when it's just me... He barks all the time... Steals attacks the Dior when people go by.
He's not good with young kids either. He's very much jump and luck non stop bur when they go to stand he blocks them and just barks. With babies he just wants to grab and bark at them.
Older kids he's not so bad with and will settle.
Xxxxxxx

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The doctor said low progesterone. I'm going to SIRM and hopefully they give me a reason or give me prednisone, or something. I did take asprin before and they said I can do that.

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Update on me:

Hmmm, pretty sure everyone knows everything but here goes.
-still waiting for my mom to pass
-Robbie is now 7! he passes grade 1 - awesome marks (5 A's and 3 B's)
-the new house is great, still unpacking
-had spotting on day 22 (which never happens) currently on day 29, had been testing but ran out of tests
-going to see if I can go back to work even 4 hours/day and NOT hurt my jaw
-my 43rd birthday is coming up way too quickly

Everyone else:

Mari - glad you are trying again, I am so disappointed for you
Liz - hoping you are finally able to maintain a pregnancy
Renae - I can understand where you are, and thinking about giving up

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What SIRM?

Happy birthday to robbie.
And well dOne to him on his grades! That's fabulous!! One smart cookie.

Sorry about your mum... You are all in my thoughts. What a hard time.

How is your jaw doing?

Keep us posted On what's going on this month.... I send you so much baby dust every month I am surprised you don't choke on it.

When is your birthday?
Doing anything special??

Xxxxxx

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Margaret I'm sorry about your mother, mine passed in 2006 and nothing can replace her. I have a 10 yo brother so she was not that old.
Liz dorm is sirm is sher institute of reproductive medicine.

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As for me this is the first time I've been on in awhile. My new job is great and I worked ot for 4 weeks trying to open the new store and for grand opening. I do love it the job is a temp job untill they decide who they are keeping. I really want to stay and I think I will because the lead in my dept hasn't been hired and I told my manager I wanted to be considered for the position. I do know that my store manager would like to see me get it but my dept manager really wants the other person. The other person has been with the company for a while so I'm ok if I don't get it plus both managers said they want to get me a lead spot so that is good news. As for ttc we are still but I'm on my second cycle of Femara. I haven't really stressed about ttc since I got this job and that feels so good. I'm ok with waiting now or taking a BFP now. I really want a BFP so much but with my medical I'm done wanted it so much. I'm trying to do anything to take my mind off of wanted a LO so much. I have lost 9 lbs just by going back to work, my mood is way better and I realized that I was falling deeper into a depression so I've talked to my doctor. Now that I figured it out I've been much better. I don't sit for to long so I don't make it here but it's back towards the top. I lurk a lot but haven't even been doing that so now I'm back.

Everyone:

Liz- Sorry you are not able to keep Rocco but you are wonderful to see it's to hard. Puppies are really hard to train and take so much time and with ttc I would make to same choice. He will get a good home that he will get spoiled. I don't think I could do a puppy at all, we rescued ours at 2yo and 4 1/2 yo and that was really hard with the 2 yo. They are great NOW and they are my kids but a puppy now way.

Marisol- I'm so sorry to hear what happened. I'm crushed for you but so glad to see you aren't giving up so easily. Have lots of fun at the amusement park and try to relax. What amusement park are you going to?

Renea- All I can say is you are so strong to have kept trying I so look up to you for that. I don't think I could after about three. I total understand about giving up and I've only had one m/c. When I want to give up hubby is all in and when he wants to I'm all in so we are a good match. We are always all in but some months you want it more kwim? I hope the new clinic will be able to work it out for you.

Margaret: I'm so sorry about your mom. It sucks having to wait but sometimes there might be a reason why. My grandma was off dialysis for 18 weeks before she left us. My grandpa only told her bye and it was ok the day before she went. Just trying to let you know I understand the waiting and we are always here for you all the way through. Good job to Robbie and Happy Birthday too. I hate unpacking but glad the house is good.

Now I'm off to read and catch up some more.

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Carin

Hi!!!
Good to hear from you and so pleased everything is coming together!!!
Work sound fab!!!!
I truly hope you get good news on the lead position soon!!!
Well done on the weight loss too!!!
Sounds to me like 2012 might just be a good year!!!!
I look forward to hearing even better news too !! Smile

My dig is neat 4 now.
We just call him puppy because he is so playful. Wink
Doubt we will ever get another dog.
It's not fair to.
Well talking of dogs... Mine is now whining and squeaking so much to be taken out that glass is shattering... So... Later gaitor!!
Xxxxxxxxx

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I'm so bad on these threads! Seems everyone is just plugging along still. I hope we all get BFPs by the end of the year!

Things for me are stressful right now. Because DH changed jobs, we've had a bit of a break in pay due to different pay schedules so we are super insane broke right now. I can't wait until next week when he gets his first pay which will cover from when he started as he missed the first pay schedule at his new job (which means a larger pay!) We had to borrow money for the first time ever to pay the emergency vet last week, and we will barely be able to get by until next week. All the $ we have left is going to gas and transit as those are the only two expenses we have until pay day. Ug...I hate being broke!!

As for TTC - well, we have the appt with the new clinic next week. I'm excited a little but at the same time DH and I aren't on the same page right now. We haven't DTD in two months and whenever I try, DH isn't interested. I think it's just stress mostly from buying the new house, his new job, money issues, the dog being sick, it all adds up. And the heat doesn't help (we don't have AC in the new house). Neither of us are interested in DTD when it's so hot and sticky!

I think a part of me has given up though. I've reached the lowest of the low. I have no enthusiasm for TTC anymore. I've basically accepted it will never happen. I am negative all the time, I don't want to be social, I don't want to go out and see anyone. I just want to sleep all the time and be at home away from everything and everyone.....

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Rachael

I am so sorry you are having such a rough time.
I mean it's wonderful you have a new home and dh has a new job... But the way you are feeling is tough.
Ttc aside do you think you may be depressed.
I only ask because everything you just told us is like me describing how I felt when my worst bout of depression hit.
It was like there was no way out. Sleeping just got a new day here sooner.
I found talking to a total stranger through counselling helped me.
I hope I haven't overstepped the Mark.
Just worried about you.
Is rob supportive of how you are feeling?

Huge hugs love.
I am here to listen if you need me okay.
Xxxxxx

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Oh I know I'm depressed. I've had bouts of depression and anxiety for years, and counseling helped previously. One thing I did learn in counseling is that if you are anxious or depressed about something, you have to solve it. Well...I can't solve this one. I keep going in circles when I try to come up with solutions to it. And the only solution seems to be getting pregnant. I can't accept not having at least one child. It's all I've ever wanted my entire life. Everything I could ever want to do brings me no joy unless it can be done with a child. I used to love going out to events and places like the zoo or museums, but now it just brings me pain to think about doing anything. What's the point in traveling and learning new things if I can't do it as a family or pass that information on to a child? Everything I have ever done has been in preparation of having a child. I spent years as a girl scout with the intention of passing on all those skills to my children. Cooking - the only reason I ever wanted to cook and bake was so that I could cook and bake for and with my children. Everything just seems so pointless now. I don't see why it's worth it to do anything anymore.

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I'll tell you why it's worth it... Because you WILL have your family to do all this with and for.
It's not over. You can't give up.
You are so close to your appointment now... It would be crazy to just throw in the towel.
Also you need to start getting out and about to lift the depression because being like that will just hinder your chances.
It's one more obstacle.
You need to try and clear the obstacles.
You can't do it alone either.
Dh needs to pull his weight too.
I truly believe you are destined to have a family.
Don't give up... Not this far down the line love.
The sweeter it's goi g to be when you get your little one.
Xxxxxo

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Hi Ladies! I've been doing well. Been continuing with my diet and exercise program. I've lost 15lbs so far and feeling pretty good! Starting to see some muscle definition and that's exciting! I'm also fully on HRT (hormone replacement therapy) for my POF (premature ovarian failure). I am taking estrace and provera daily now. It's a frustrating process but other than getting my emotions a bit more under control I'm feeling pretty good. No more night sweats, hot flashes and achey joints. Smile Work is going... have alot of decisions to make about my future. Time for a change for me. For those who don't know, I have been running a home day care for 7 years. I have always been in the child care field and opened the home day care to stay home with my second child, but sadly that wasn't meant to be. I'm planning on going back to school and making a career change. I'm wanting to get more in the health/wellness field. Have alot on my mind in that regard. My dog (3 year old shih tzu) hasn't been well for a few weeks now. After spending a small fortune at the vet two weeks ago, it was determined she's hurt her back or back leg(s). Probably jumped off the couch or something and landed the wrong way. She took pain meds for 7 days and she's pretty much back to her old self as far as moving easily and eating and drinking again. But she's still not 100%. The vet mentioned x-rays if she's not better. But to be honest it's not something I can pay for right now. She's not running to the door to greet people and barking, and she still doesn't jump on the couch or go up the big steps outside. Will only take the small set of steps up and down. She's not limping or anything like that. Just not quiet sure what it is. *sigh* Nothing major planned for our summer this year. We've decided to hang out at home this year. Smile

Liz, I'm sorry you have to let go of your puppy. *Hugs* I'm so excited for you to be ttc again!! Wishing you all the best!!

Renea, I'm so very sorry to hear of your many losses. I couldn't even imagine!! *HUGS* You are seeing the BEST RE out there from what I've heard!! All the best to you!!

Margaret, I'm sorry for all that is going on with your mom. *HUGS* I am thinking of you and your family as you go through this sad time. I hope you are able to get back to work soon.

Rachael, I remember the frustration and sadness you are feeling. Infertility is such a difficult thing to deal with. Please don't give up on your dreams of being a mommy!

Marisol, I'm very hopeful for your next IVF cycle! Your puppy sounds so cute!! Do you take him for walks each day? I was reading about dog behaviour etc and they say that our pups need to be walked twice a day (morning and night) to burn off energy they build up during the day. I live in the country so it's hard for us to do that. I'd have to drive in to town to take my dog for a walk, lol. But we walk her around our property. Anyhow, just a thought.

I hope I haven't missed anyone. I'm trying to reply by memory... Thinking of you all as you go through your different journies to motherhood and family additions. I mostly lurk these days as I don't have much to contribute. Hope you all have a wonderful summer! Smile

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Well done on all your weight loss Jodi!!!
So proud of you!!
Although I don't think you needed to lose weight. So beautiful!!!

Glad you now have hrt
What does all that mean in your ttc journey?
Would you consider adoption?
Please tell me to belt up if I am being over personal or dense.

Sorry about your puppy.
I hope he gets better.

How's your beautiful girl doing?
Xxxxxxx

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Hey Liz! Smile DD is doing well! She's on summer vacation now. Can't believe she's finished her first year of highschool already! Crazy how fast it's going! My furbaby is doing okay. I've called the vet again today and he's prescribed her more pain meds. He still would like to do an x-ray but wants to wait and see if another week on pain meds does the trick first. Thank you for your sweet compliment hun! xo At this point we are no longer ttc. Our only option for a pregnancy is donor eggs. If we did choose to go that route I would just go off the HRT and take the meds necessary for an embryo transfer. We've discussed adoption as well and we are both open to it. The thing is we are starting to enjoy our life as parents of a teenager. We just have a little more freedom (we really see it in our friends with young children). When we met she was 5 years old so we never really had this before. I'm planning on making a career change in the next year or so and am putting my energy in to that now. I still get wistful and dream of being pregnant and having a baby... but I think I've made peace with the fact that I'm the mom of one.

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OK, I did post an update a few days ago but it did not actually post so, here is my latest update...

Thanks for all the comments about my mom. It is stressful but whenever it happens the end will be good for all of us. I wish things were different, I would love for her to at least meet her new grandchild but I really don't want to live another 36 weeks... it would be too hard on all of us.

So if the hint there, and the ticker on my siggy doesn't clue you in.... a little one is expected to arrive around March 15th. Had a beta today, will have another Sunday and then Tuesday...hopefully all is good. Having some cramping but don't know if that is my uterus growing or what. Hopefully it is my uterus growing.

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Congratulations Margaret!!! So happy for you!!!! Smile

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Wow Jodi!!!
You soy d so sorted and happy!!
I am so pleased!!
Tay fir furbaby and for V.
She has grown up so fast eh?
Beautiful girl just like you!!!

Margaret!!!
Eeeeeppppp!!!
Have you had your betas back yet?
Anymore more tests to post!!!
So happy for you!!
Xxxxx

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I just wanted to stop by and tell you ladies how much i love you all since day one !! This will always be my "homeboard"!! I hope that all of you ladies have happy posts very soon !!!! Baby dust to you all!!!

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That's very sweet Tash.... Thank you!!!
How about an update from you?
How are things?
Xxxxxx

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Margaret- Congrats so happy for you I'm doing a little dance.

Liz- I hope I can share good news soon either a full time spot or BFP.

Rachael- Don't give up. You're a fighter and will get everything you want. You'll have your family just like any of us will it's just a little harder for some of us. I've been where you are and wanting to throw in the towel but we just keep trying. As for the depression I was there a couple of months ago. All I will say is TALK to your doctor and I'm here to listen without judgement. I'm sorry you are going through all of this HUGS but congrats on the house.

AFM we just got our power back it's been out since Thursday at 4am. Work is still great. I don't think about when AF is due and when I'm Oing anymore but DH is on top of it. I'm still temping but really want to stop. Haven't done OPKs in a few months cause I don't get a good reading on them. DH won a Kindle Fire at work so I can't wait to play with it. I have a Nook but it's older, no tablet.

What is everyone else up too? Doesn't matter with what baby making, work, kids etc... Let us know how you are.

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Im ok .. Made 14 weeks today which is great.. Im still a nervous wreck though just because !! Im finally done with my undergrad studies so i get a nice break !!

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Tasha congrats on both pregnancy and being done with your undergrad studies. Enjoy the break!!!

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MrsV2B, Congratulations on 14 weeks and completing your undergrad!! What an accomplishment!! Enjoy your break and pregnancy! Smile

Carin, Wow that's a long time for the power to be out! Glad it's back on for you! I'm glad work is going well. It's nice to just not think about af/ovulating etc anymore eh!? I still keep track of spotting and day 1 on fertilityfriend, without diong that I would surely forget. I hope you will be blessed with a bfp soon!

Liz, Since my pup has been back on pain meds she's a new dog!! I'm so happy to see her so happy and energetic again! DD sure is growing up before my eyes! It's super crazy how fast it all goes! I can still remember when I was pregnant with her like it was yesterday. I find in the summer I get very nostalgic. It's a bittersweet time of year for me. I see you are in the beginning of the 2ww. Fingers crossed my friend!!

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Thank you ladies!!!

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I've been lurking lots, sorta without a real PC right now. My laptop broke, being repaired for the 5th time, but I ordered a new one because I've had it with that piece of junk. Looks like both PC's will be arriving on the same day now.

Anyway, quick update here. 27 1/2 weeks pregnant, I have extra fluid which is a concern so I get tons of scans. Extra fluid adds more weight, making things more difficult. Both babies are doing great though so they are leaning towards a fluke versus minor birth defects. Still, it's a bit worrying but we're confident that they're fine. Baby A (boy) now weighs nearly 3 lbs. Baby B (girl) is 2lbs. 9 oz. That's basically nearly 6 lbs of babies already, yikes!! No wonder I have severe reflux, pains, sleepless-ness, etc, haha. Don't get me wrong, I am thrilled about how well they are doing but sometimes scared at how I'll make it to 37 weeks. I'm not kidding when I say I am "huge". I even asked the doctor today how big is too big for babies and he basically said I'll stretch. Gee, thanks! I'm only 4' 10", petite mama here. Thankfully my MIL is flying in again on Aug 31 to lend a hand and for their birth, etc, which helps a lot. My Stepdad's been a saint & taking me to my appts since I can't drive (yup, belly is that huge, hits the steering wheel, haha).

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