Ok, we are all here because we've been at this a LONG time. We all know how some months the idea of DTD is the farthest from our mind. And getting DH in the mood several days in a row can be...daunting.
Do you guys use anything in the bedroom to spice things up?
I used to have a remote control....bullet vibrator thingy. It was fun because I insert it, and DH could control the vibrations remotely from anywhere in the house! Last week I just happened to dig it out of a box from moving, but unfortunately a battery corroded inside it and it's unusable now.
I think I want to get a We-Vibe 3 as a replacement. If you go on YouTube and there are some product videos (PG rated - nothing bad) explaining how it works. It's $150 though.... but I've wanted one for years! I think I might just take the plunge for DH and I to have some fun.
I figure, we talk about all kinds of TMI stuff here, why not this! Spill it!
LOL! You are too funny! I think we can all relate to this, TTC is the worst for sex! We aren't very creative but have used things in the past. Curious to see what everyone else is trying!! LOL!
Oh, I can say that hotel sex is the best! LMAO! We actually went away one weekend hoping for the best!
Rachael, I used to have the bullet thing too. Same thing happened to mine. I get a little embarrassed going to the stores to even look at stuff. We have 3 "adult" shops within 2 miles of one another, but have never been there with DH. We really need to do something b/c it is going on 4 months of NOTHING!!!
Marisol - Totally about the hotels! I love hotels. Not sure why!
Combatcutie - 4 months! Wow, I think the most we've gone is 2 so far. But we only get once, maybe twice a month in at the best of times. I loved the bullet, it was so fun! I was so sad to learn it didn't work anymore. The remote worked but not the bullet part. Seriously, check out the promotional videos for the We-Vibe online. I think when DH gets paid tomorrow I will go get it as a surprise! Most stores you can order online with free shipping these days, maybe order it if you don't want to go to the store?
I think we might also benefit from a wedge pillow as DH is quite tall and sometimes it's a challenge to find good positions. We used two pillows propping me up last week and it was...much better KWIM?
One thing I and DH really like (and I'm not sure if they have them in the US) are the one-time use vibrating rings from Trojen and other companies. They are really fun, but around $10. I like the idea of the We-Vibe as it functions almost the same and is rechargeable, flexible, and reusable.
The we-vibe is awesome!! And no batteries, it has a charger. Have to say things have changed (for the better) since we've stopped ttc. No more pressure etc. But I remember those days very well.
I think DH turning 40 has something to do with no excitement in the bedroom. He is really depressed about turning 40 and has been since June. I noticed it was going down hill then but never said anything. Finally the other day I told him it was 3 months on the 21st, which in April it will be 4. He says that he is just too tired
What is the website you are buying it from?
I used to sell vibes so I have a few that being said, DH will not use anything to enhance things... doesn't even want to use lube but understands that sometimes I need it...
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I might have to check this we-vibe out. In our situation it's me that really has no interest.
IVF #1-cancelled d/t embryos arresting before transfer (3/09)
IVF #2-BFP 9wks-7/30/09 (6/09)
IVF #3-BFN (5/10)
Actually, I just got the "We-Vibe 3" last night! The difference between the "We-Vibe 2" and "3" is this:
-the 2 is not fully water submergable and has a plug in charger and no remote.
-the 3 is fully enclosed and can go in water to any depth (think hot tubs or baths). It also has a remote control. Both the remote and the device use magnetic wireless charge on a charger base.
In Canada the 2 is about $99 and the 3 is $149.99. I got the 3 on sale last night for $139.99 in a store called Aren't We Naughty (it's a Canadian brand). They have a website but I can't get the URL at work.
It has to charge for 24 hours before use so we plan to test it out tonight. I will let you know! I got the purple one (it comes in cherry and teal as well).
I also just ordered this book on Monday. It's a waterproof book. I used to own a copy but lost it. It took me a while searching online but I found a re-seller that had a new copy in stock. Can't wait to get it (maybe it will come today! YAY!) That's for my own pleasure though, unless DH wants me to read it to him....