UGH! I hate being stressed and not being able to talk to people about it!!! Aside from a few close friends, so you ladies are getting the vent cause well the internet provideds amenity to some degree. Since we are from a small town where everyone knows everyone it just isn't an option to talk about it among most of my friends and even some family with big mouths
So I guess a little back story DH and I were apart for about a year after DD was born and before we were married. He went through a sort of soul searching, who am I, I am going to drink myself silly and forget about my problems phase.....Which resulted in one crazy night with an acquaintance, which in turn resulted in my Dh's son I who is now almost 7. MY DH has done nothing but try to be responsible for him and the mother and her family would have nothing of it. They wouldn't take our support payments, or offer to put him on our health ins, (he was born with a heart defect and has had 4 open heart surgeries) Nothing, and then one day they up and moved no one knew where or would tell us. Well fast forward to about a year and a half ago suddenly the mother contacted my SIL and told her that (I) had been living with her mother all along and that she had given her gaurdianship. So through the wonderful world of the internet we were able to track the grandma down and we then persued paternity which was a year long process because the state had to rule that it was in the best interest of I that we do that, thank God they ruled in our favor and filed those papers this week. But we also found out that maternal grandma is trying to adopt him...UGHH So we just talked to a lawyer, who basically said it is going to be rough to establish parenting time with I, because DH has not filed anything with the courts for the last 6 years. It just makes me so sad that the mom and her family have kept him from my DH not to mention everyone else. We all just want to love him, what is so wrong with that? We are good people with a loving family and it sucks that he is being denied that.......Not to mention the day will come when he will wonder who his daddy is. Plus and I know this may sound selfish and shallow all the money we have saved for IVF will now be going to the lawyer's retainer fee. I mean I am happy to put the money to good use but it still sucks that IVF has to wait longer...Ugh sorry I just needed to vent thanks if you have read this long....How has my life suddenly turned into a Jerry Springer show lol????