I know I don't come here a lot anymore. I don't really have a lot to talk about TTC related as DH and I are really back to JLIH and I don't really follow TTC much anymore. It's sad really but oh well, what can you do? DH and I aren't on the same page right now and we are starting couples therapy in January (was supposed to be next week but with holidays we had to re-schedule). We aren't divorcing or separating or anything like that, but we do need to work on some of our communication issues and DH has some issues he won't go to therapy alone to figure out so I'm hoping this will help him open up better.
Anyway, we saw our RE after my LAP/HSG in October and this is what he found while he was "in there":
-The cyst on my left ovary is gone now, it turns out it was a "chocolate cyst" (blood filled/endometrioma) and not the dermoid cyst the other clinic thought it was. He drained it and removed the lining so it shouldn't grow back.
-I did have a significant subseptate uterus (heart shaped). He removed the septum and it looks MUCH better now he said. The septum was taking up a lot of space and embryos don't implant to septums easily which could have been our issue.
-I had a polyp that was blocking the entrance to my right tube. He removed the polyp and the dye test was successful on both tubes now. Yay!
-I do have endo. He didn't give me a "stage" but with the endo affecting my ovary and with adhesions, I believe that's stage 3? But then again, some of it was burned off last year in my other lap so he couldn't say for sure how bad it really is. He burned off any areas he saw though and removed any adhesions he saw.
So, we are to try on our own until April and then go back for some more aggresive options such as Femera and maybe some more IUI (since it did work once). This RE strongly believes we will be pregnant by they end of 2013 and he is determined to make it happen for us. I'm really happy with him as well and so is DH.
On a side note, the septum could also have been causing heavier than normal AF for me (more surface space on the inside of the uterus for tissue to grow on and thus shed). I just finished my third AF since the surgery and it was INSANELY light! Like, crazy light to the point I was wondering if I even had AF! I usually have flooding and use plus tampons with backup overnight pads. I didn't have any leaking this time at all, very few cramps, and only 3 days of bleeding versus my usual 5-6 of bleeding plus 2-3 of spotting. It was nuts! I hope it stays like this forever now!
I'm sorry about your marital problems. It's great you two are going to counseling, some people won't consider it until it's too late.
The rest of the news seems pretty good though. They fixed alot of things, and that's awesome! It's so wonderful he has such a positive outlook and is so optomistic!! He's a professional, so if he thinks it looks that good, that's great!!! I'm sure this year is your year!!!
I am sorry things are a bit tough for you too.
I am glad that you are both wanting to sort it out.
Shows a strong relationship to me.
The rest!! YAY!!!
Sounds like you have a fabulous doctor!!!
2013 is going to rock!!!
I am so glad that the new doctor was able to repair some things. My hope is that you will have a nice BFP sometime in the next year. I am sorry to hear that you and DH are feeling a bit rocky. Hopefully counseling will help work on those communication issues. Marriage is so hard.
Rachael, I'm so sorry that you aren't on the same page with DH about TTC. I am in the same position with mine. I will tell you that marriage counseling has helped us deal with a lot of stuff and I hope it does the same for you. Our main issue was my husband's inability to see that a supposed "friend" who happened to be female was causing nothing but trouble between us. She would constantly call him (one month, they spent over 1600 minutes on the phone), ask for help, take her calls over mine etc etc. Well, needless to say, after months of counseling, he finally realized what he was doing. We are no longer friends with this girl b/c he caught her in a bunch of lies and called her out on them. Oh well, my life is better without her. My point is, you will be so happy once you start figuring out ways to communicate with one another. It truly does help. If you need to talk, I am a pm away. Best of luck to you <3
OOoh, you just sound so hopeful and optimistic in your post! I hope that 2013 will be a wonderful year for you.
That is WONDERFUL about AF!!! It sounds like things are really turning around and you're just getting all "cleaned out" and ready for a little baby to snuggle down inside of that tidy uterus.
I'm so glad you guys are going to counseling - so many couples think it is shameful but there is absolutely nothing wrong in getting some help. After all - if you have fertility issues, you go to the doctor... and if your marriage needs a boost, a counselor should be able to help sort things out, too. Hope everything goes well for you with your DH!!!
I'm glad you're feeling good, even if things aren't perfect. Its great that you guys are getting some help together, marriage is tough and infertility struggles don't help I'm sure.
I hope all the clearing out and cleaning up of your lady parts was enough for JLIH-ing to work for you guys. I have my fingers crossed that you get a 2013 BFP!
I'm sorry to hear that you and your husband are going through a rough time right now. Marriage is hard at times and infertility struggles just add more issues. I believe it is a true testament to your love for each other to work it out with some help. There were times when my husband and I were on different pages during our journey. I honestly feel we are closer now than ever before. *Hugs*
As for ttc, it sounds like you have a great plan in place! I wish you all the best!!
We were supposed to see a counselor tonight but he cancelled. Luckily we re-scheduled for January 2! So not that far off. It's been really hard the last 6 months or so because DH suffers from depression and stoutly REFUSES to talk to anyone about his problems. He believes his problems are his own and he should deal with them. I think because of that he has a lot of pent up anger and he has a tendency lately to say really mean things and act out. I'm just hoping the counselor will help him learn to communicate better!
Doesn't look like we will be TTC this month either. I expect to get a positive OPK today, but DH has a nasty flu. His temp was 103 last night!