Am thinking about quitting

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CrysRee31's picture
Joined: 06/01/11
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Am thinking about quitting

After a year and a half of TTC (in my early 30s) it's not looking promising.
Thanks to our Canadian system of needing a referral to see anyone other than a GP and crazy wait lists I'm looking at not even seeing anyone till I'm 33 then I'll have to wait for testing (again months of waiting to get in for tests) and probably won't begin any treatment till I'm 34/35 by then my daughter (from my 1st marriage) will be nearly a teenager.
We won't prevent but if we haven't been successful by now it's not likely we will be on our own Sad

Lily2006's picture
Joined: 05/16/11
Posts: 896

I'm sorry hun :bighug: I hope you won't need any medical intervention and that you and DH will be able to get pregnant by JLIH. Sending every ounce of baby dust in the world to you.

Jokr's picture
Joined: 04/19/12
Posts: 282

I'm sorry, that's awful Sad
It's got to be so frustrating, but don't give up yet - who knows what will happen?

I'm Canadian too (BC) and I found that the waitlists for specialists aren't always as bad as they seem. The last time I was on a wait list (granted it was for an MRI, and not seeing a specialist) I was told 12-18 months, but I was in and had the scan within 3 months. Same with seeing my surgeon, I was in way faster than the "posted" waitlists. And hey.....even if the list really is as long as they say, you're still higher on it than someone getting added next week Wink

Hang in there, I'm sorry this is so hard
:bigarmhug:

Leah261's picture
Joined: 09/14/11
Posts: 1244

That must be SO frustrating! I know I'd be losing my mind if I was in the same position. I thought the wait to see my RE of a month seemed like a long time. Normally I wouldn't have thought that but when TTC everything just seems like FOREVER and having to wait a long time to see someone and being on a list and all of that would be just awful. Thankfully the tests seem to come back pretty quickly. Everything I had done at first was just blood work and the results were back in a few days. Everything else the doc did himself and there was an instant result to that and he was able to make a diagnosis and treatment plan on the day of my appointment. Is it possible for you to find out what tests that you'll need done so you can get them done ahead of time? I have no idea have this stuff works in Canada since I'm in the US. It would be nice if they'd let you do that so you could be as prepared as possible for the appointment.

I'm so sorry you're going through this sweetie. It's so hard to wait for a baby like this when you want one so bad and to constantly feel like there are nothing but obstacles in your way. I'm sending you lots of hugs! :bigarmhug:

Leah261's picture
Joined: 09/14/11
Posts: 1244

That must be SO frustrating! I know I'd be losing my mind if I was in the same position. I thought the wait to see my RE of a month seemed like a long time. Normally I wouldn't have thought that but when TTC everything just seems like FOREVER and having to wait a long time to see someone and being on a list and all of that would be just awful. Thankfully the tests seem to come back pretty quickly. Everything I had done at first was just blood work and the results were back in a few days. Everything else the doc did himself and there was an instant result to that and he was able to make a diagnosis and treatment plan on the day of my appointment. Is it possible for you to find out what tests that you'll need done so you can get them done ahead of time? I have no idea have this stuff works in Canada since I'm in the US. It would be nice if they'd let you do that so you could be as prepared as possible for the appointment.

I'm so sorry you're going through this sweetie. It's so hard to wait for a baby like this when you want one so bad and to constantly feel like there are nothing but obstacles in your way. I'm sending you lots of hugs! :bigarmhug:

Joined: 04/30/09
Posts: 2257

I'm sorry that must be so discouraging having the wait lists be so long. As Michelle said, sending you every bit of baby dust possible! I know it doesn't seem likely, but you never know when things could happen.

:bigarmhug:

mrs.doolittle's picture
Joined: 02/18/08
Posts: 1335

Crystal, I know it's frustrated, but don't let the age gap between your older daughter and a new sibling stop you. My DSS was 12 when we started TTC (we met later in life). By the time our DS was born, my DSS was 2 months shy of 16. If you still feel incomplete without another child, I would continue to try while you wait for the RE appointment. Hopefully, you will get bumped up on the list. With a wait that long, some women must get pregnant on their own and drop off or decide to adopt or stop TTC. Maybe you just need a break while you're waiting?

glwolf's picture
Joined: 09/26/11
Posts: 928

I am so sorry! I think you should take a much needed break and then try while you are waiting. Otherwise you are still gonna be waiting anyway cuz the need for a baby never really goes away and who knows maybe you will get pregnant "for free" in the meantime! That's even better!