BFN for me too

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BFN for me too

I think it's time for a talk with the hubby about using fertility treatments. It's taking me a while to come around to it, but I just can't keep hoping this is going to happen on it's own. It's like digging myself out of the dark hole every month only to fall back in again a few weeks later. Mentally, emotionally, it's killing me. I am scared my husband is going to say no way to drugs, though.

If I can't just let it go, and be 100% happy with what I have, I don't want to wait anymore to take the next step. (and the struggle I am having with that-why can't I just be content with what I have! UGH!) The natural interventions route is not working, even though my cycles have been much better. I just keep getting older, so are my kids I have already and with every cycle the endo is probably growing back again. I'll be back where I started, but older!

Might call for my second opinion RE today. At least I might feel proactive about it as I enjoy my freedom to have a few drinks this weekend.

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:bigarmhug: That sucks!

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Kara--I totally get how you feel. Totally. We're very close in age so I *especially* get it, only I don't have any kids at all yet. Call the RE. Seriously, it will help you at least gain a modicum of "control" over this. Plus, it just helps to have someone in your corner trying to help you with your goal.

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Yep, appointment scheduled for next week with new RE. I am interested, and apprehensive as to what this doctor might say. My other doctor, who did my surgery, recommended IVF as our best option. IUI as a second, "poor" option because of risk of ectopic. Also, he said the IUI would be with clomid, which I have heard is very bad for people with endometriosis. I have heard that Femara is much better. We'll see what he says. A suspicious part of me wonders if everyone's 'best' option is IVF. Wouldn't it be? Takes half the process out?

And silly me thought we could pull this off on our own. I just couldn't accept I needed fertility, much less IVF. Maybe if I were more patient..........but if I didn't have all these problems........

I really can't travel to see the first RE anymore anyway, since I have a new job, so I hope I like this new guy.

Anyone out there with endometriosis who got pg with either Femara or Clomid? Please share your stories! I don't really want to take Clomid, then get all the pain back that i had before the surgery and still have no baby.

Maybe I'll start a new post to see what answers I might get to that question!