Well, ladies...I disappeared for a while because of various reasons. First hubby found out that his dog (that he left at his parents' house when we moved in together) was having kidney failure, so he spent a couple of weeks over there and I spent all of my time frantically trying to clean as much as I could while he was gone. He spent both weekends here, though. On one of those we DTD and that's a whole different story I'll get to in a second. His mom finally took Koti to their "regular vet" and that vet said his kidney's are still functioning enough to get by, and gave her a prescription to help keep them that way and said he will probably live another 6-12 months (the "budget vet" she'd been taking him to gave him 2-3 weeks), so she's pissed, and hubby is home for now.
Then, hubby broke the rods in his spine. He had a spinal fusion when he was 16 and got 1/4" steel rods placed on either side of his spine to help stabilize it. Within a month he had a break in each of them. The doctors were baffled. Well, shortly after he got home (it was the week of Thanksgiving) he shifted in his chair and felt a sharp "pop" in his back. He said he felt heat and pain in the are for about an hour, but just kind of let it go because his body is always doing weird things. A week later he said he felt like there was "something" in his spine, so we took him to the Children's Hospital (adult doctors never know what to do with him because of his disability) ED and they took x-rays and found that he now has 5 breaks. He made an appointment with his orthopedic surgeon who said that though the rods are broken, his back looks fully stable, so we're taking him back in March for a new set of x-rays to make sure it's still stable and isn't just moving slowly. At that point we can reassess everything.
For now, because we're waiting to see what happens, we're not actively TTC. Boo. (HERE'S THE QUESTION): We haven't been able to DTD much lately anyway because of various things, one of which is that the last time we did (about a month ago, when he stayed here a weekend between trips to his parents') I had severe pain and cramping/spotting for about 5-7 days afterwards. During he hit something (I'm not sure if it was my uterus or an ovary) and it had a sharp initial pain. This is nothing new...I have very low-set internal organs, and he is not a small man...Anyone else have a similar issue and have any ideas how we can make TTC (and just fun, for that matter) less painful? It's difficult to get pregnant when your husband is always nervous he's going to hurt you. Unfortunately, we have the unique problem of not only "not fitting together" right, but then there's his lack of use of his legs, so our position library is limited.