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    Default On break from TTC again, can I stay? Also, a TMI question.

    Well, ladies...I disappeared for a while because of various reasons. First hubby found out that his dog (that he left at his parents' house when we moved in together) was having kidney failure, so he spent a couple of weeks over there and I spent all of my time frantically trying to clean as much as I could while he was gone. He spent both weekends here, though. On one of those we DTD and that's a whole different story I'll get to in a second. His mom finally took Koti to their "regular vet" and that vet said his kidney's are still functioning enough to get by, and gave her a prescription to help keep them that way and said he will probably live another 6-12 months (the "budget vet" she'd been taking him to gave him 2-3 weeks), so she's pissed, and hubby is home for now.

    Then, hubby broke the rods in his spine. He had a spinal fusion when he was 16 and got 1/4" steel rods placed on either side of his spine to help stabilize it. Within a month he had a break in each of them. The doctors were baffled. Well, shortly after he got home (it was the week of Thanksgiving) he shifted in his chair and felt a sharp "pop" in his back. He said he felt heat and pain in the are for about an hour, but just kind of let it go because his body is always doing weird things. A week later he said he felt like there was "something" in his spine, so we took him to the Children's Hospital (adult doctors never know what to do with him because of his disability) ED and they took x-rays and found that he now has 5 breaks. He made an appointment with his orthopedic surgeon who said that though the rods are broken, his back looks fully stable, so we're taking him back in March for a new set of x-rays to make sure it's still stable and isn't just moving slowly. At that point we can reassess everything.

    For now, because we're waiting to see what happens, we're not actively TTC. Boo. (HERE'S THE QUESTION): We haven't been able to DTD much lately anyway because of various things, one of which is that the last time we did (about a month ago, when he stayed here a weekend between trips to his parents') I had severe pain and cramping/spotting for about 5-7 days afterwards. During he hit something (I'm not sure if it was my uterus or an ovary) and it had a sharp initial pain. This is nothing new...I have very low-set internal organs, and he is not a small man...Anyone else have a similar issue and have any ideas how we can make TTC (and just fun, for that matter) less painful? It's difficult to get pregnant when your husband is always nervous he's going to hurt you. Unfortunately, we have the unique problem of not only "not fitting together" right, but then there's his lack of use of his legs, so our position library is limited.
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    sorry you are dealing with all that with the dog and your DH's health!

    not sure on the TTC/sex stuff. sorry!
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    Wow. That is a lot to have to deal with all at once. Sorry to hear that DH's health issues are giving you such troubles. Hopefully those get resolved and you can move on with life. On the other stuff, I sometimes have pain in certain positions where it seems like DH is hitting something. I've brought it up with my OB before but he never really addressed it or looked into it and as far as I know everything is normal down there. I've thought maybe its my cervix being low or something, but overall not a big enough issue to really cause a lot of problems.

    The only thing I'd suggest is trying different positions to the extent that you can, or maybe not have him go all the way in. Not sure if that's all doable. Maybe in the same positions, see if you guys can maybe get a different angle that might help keep him from hitting something. I think its just gonna be trial and error to figure out what works best for you. KUP and good luck. I wish you all the best.

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    Thanks to both of you. Anna, I've brought it up with my GP (I have literally only been to my OB twice, since I get my paps done from my GP) and she said that because of my PCOS my ovaries are more tender, so even a light bump will cause some pain. I think a big part of it is going to be to just keep trying things even when we don't necessarily feel like it. We tend to let our health and busy schedule get the better of us, and aside from when we have been TTC, we really don't DTD much, so there has been less trial and more error. lol. I also wonder if perhaps both of us getting in the habit of exercising might help because then we'd both have more muscle control. Hmmm...
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    Exercise always helps! I so very much need to get back to that myself.

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    Anna, hubby and I talked about it and we both think that exercise will make a huge difference. Last year we were both exercising regularly and it was when we had the least issues in the bedroom (or the living room, or...Well, you get the idea. Haha.), so we're both getting back on a regimen starting this next week. Right now we're spending the weekend in bed while he recovers from his antibiotics, and I recover from moving a whole bunch of furniture.

    Hubby says his back is starting to feel more stable, but we're still going to go back in March for the second set of x-rays. However, Christmas Eve he started feeling sick, and then on Christmas day we both missed Christmas because he had a fever that was hovering around 103 (and then I missed it because of various reasons, only one of which was being near him because of worry), and the following day we noticed his knee was swollen, so we took him to the ER. He was diagnosed with cellulitis (but the x-rays showed no fractures, so that's good) and given Keflex and told to stay away from the stairs (since he has to crawl, and so puts a lot of pressure on his knee) so we set up an air mattress in the family room. A few days later his whole leg was swollen, so we went back to the ER. They did more x-rays (still no fracture visible), and did an ultrasound to make sure it wasn't a blood clot. That came back negative, so they gave him an IV of Clindamycin and a prescription to take home of pills of it. He did make the trek upstairs a couple of times to take a shower, but other than that we've stayed downstairs. His swelling has almost completely disappeared, and today is his last day of antibiotics. We did have to move up to the bed last night because of an emergency situation that has put my nieces and their mom into our living room until they can find a new place to live permanently. As I write this, hubby is playing Jetpack Joyride on my iPad Mini with our 5-year-old niece (she will be 6 in a week) and making me really wonder if he'd be willing to TTC before March since he's feeling stable. lol
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