can i please have some advice? :)

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can i please have some advice? :)

So its 13 DPO i tested yesterday and i had the faintest of lines, so i thought ill test tomorrow am, i have done and i think i got a BFN, im so gutted, Am i out for this month im due on tomorrow?

the symptoms ive had:-
Boobs alot bigger
areolas Darker
cramping for a week and a half what seems like AF on its way
lower back ache
White discharge for about a week
Very moody with DP
Gagging every time i have a fag that's from 12DPO
feeling depressed
stabbing pain near belly button
hips ache
pain near pubic bone

i no there's alot here is this all in my head??

thanks in advance for your comments xxxxxxxxxxx

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IMO it's pretty early for those symptoms to mean you're pregnant - our bodies fake us out quite often this early on. If you had a faint line I'd give it another day and see what happens - how confident are you in your dates?

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They say you're not out until AF arrives! But like Julie said, our bodies (and minds!) can fake us out a lot. I think we want it SOOOO badly that we think anything can be a pregnancy symptom. And not trying to say that your symptoms aren't real, or trying to discourage you. Smile

When you tested this morning, was it using first morning urine? Maybe your urine this morning was more diluted than the morning before...that could make for a BFP one day, and a BFN the next.

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I think it is all in my head just had to wait and see if af arrives tomorrow and it's very hard for me when testing as I work nights so the fmu is after I've slept in the morning would that make any difference? Xx

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Agree with the above.
Test tomorrow am and let us know. Hoping for the best Biggrin

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It's the early hours of the morning I'm at work and no period yet but I have thick white discharge have u ever heard of that? Xx

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Were you able to test again?

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You could just not be showing positive on the tests yet. test again. You just want to hold your urine for a good amount of time. Doesn't have to be a certain time of day, just needs to be concentrated.

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AF came absolutely gutted it was all in my head feel so stupid

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Sorry you did not get the answer you wanted. Some positives that I see that you can take away is that you are becoming more in tune with your body. Are you currently charting? If you would like some advice I know that some of our users here or our new host for our Charting Your Fertility Cycle board can help guide you in getting started or in answering questions. While this month didn't work out, hopefully you are still one step closer to having your + result you want!

Best wishes!
~Missy

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Don't feel stupid, I think we've all been there! (thinking we have preg symptoms to end in AF)

I did just this past cycle! I have sore nipples and really bad cramping at 8DPO - both which have NEVER happened before. So had to be pregnant right?!?! Well I just started spotting, so sure AF is on her way Sad

I'm so sorry it didn't work out this month, but like Missy said you are starting to understand your body and cycles. Best of Luck!!

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Definitely no reason to feel stupid. Disappointed, yes. But, not stupid. We've all been there. Some of us every single cycle. *cough*me*cough* Charting your BBT is definitely a good place to start. I'm not able to do it right now, but I keep trying. Smile

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I agree, not stupid at all. I've definitely been there more than once! Hang in there and try again! Smile

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Definitely no reason to feel stupid! It happens to EVERYONE! We want it so much and our brains make us think every little thing means something. I absolutely understand the disappointment (as do many others here). Always feel free to vent/cry/complain here about how you are feeling, but please don't feel stupid for wanting that BFP so badly.

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Thank you so much lady's this means a lot I'm going to buy a thermometer and start charting my temperature see how I get on with that Smile

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Well my bleeding has stopped any ideas why?? Is it implantation or just a very short period? ✨✨✨✨✨

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So you bled for 2 days? Or just 1? That is very curious. Was is AF like heavy bleeding or lighter? And how long does AF usually last?

It depends on how many DPO you are, but it could theoretically be IB. Do you have any dollar store tests you could test with in a day or so just to know for sure?

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Well I started bleeding mon and it's tues night and it's stopped or is only there a tiny bit when I wipe Im 16DPO and yes I've brought 20 dip tests off eBay they should be here tomorrow I've never had this before normally I'm on for about 4/5 days xxx

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It started I very light brownish colour very very ligh hardly any then it went bright red with massive black clots and it then went very light again like a pinky brown colour xxx

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I have a personal theory, not backed by anything except conversations with friends and personal experience but when I have a cycle with unusual symptoms in the TWW I usually find AF is different that cycle too. My theory is that our hormones are just different that particular month. Our hormones change every day and there are so many that play a part in menstrual cycle that just one being a little higher or lower than normal could easily cause us to feel different and since we are watching for symptoms we spot every change where we may not have were we not TTC. Last month I had not quite two days of flow, nothing for almost a full day, then slight spotting for 3 days.

Sorry this wasn't the month for you. Good luck next cycle!

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Thankyou xxxx

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"Skent" wrote:

AF came absolutely gutted it was all in my head feel so stupid ����������

Aww hun, don't feel stupid! The first month DH and I tried, I was so convinced that I was pregnant that I put it on FB saying "these are my symptoms...I'm so pregnant." I tested and tested with BFNs. Sad

We've all been there. :bighug: Hang in there, chart your temps...maybe take some supplements. It will happen for you!