So we started trying this month, which is 11 wks after my D&C, and Im pretty discouraged. I thought I O'd last Thursday, or getting ready to release the egg as I always have had pain on one side for a day when that happens, so we DTD that day and the next two and now Im 10DPO and of course tested and nothing today or yesterday. Normally or at least the last pregnancy I got my positive at nightime 9DPO, so Im getting discouraged that it didnt happen this month. I hate to think and be naive that my first cycle of trying we'd get it like the last two pregnancies. And I know my period isnt late yet and theres still a possibility that Ill implant late, but never have previously so Im a little sad and mad. And scared that it wont happen easily or we'll have a hard time since I had the D&C....And my cycles are still wonky...but im pretty sure I did O on Fri then, and got a Positive OPK Thurs night...so anyway-thats it...sad, mad, discouraged, scared...
It's really easy to get discouraged in the TTC process. I imagine it's even easier to feel the way you are feeling after a loss. I'm sorry that you had to go through that loss. And while is completely understandable why you feel like you do, please try to not get discouraged, even if you didn't catch the egg this cycle. Remember, your chances of conceiving are only about 20% each cycle if everything is perfect. Anyone who gets pg the first (or even second) cycle of TTC is amazingly blessed, IMO. It'll happen for you (if it hasn't already) and it'll be perfect when it does. POAS again in a few days and KUP on how you are doing.
Try not to get hung up on the day you got a BFP for previous pregnancies. Each pregnancy is different and implantation might happen a little later. Like Anna said, even when everything is "perfect" the chances are only 20% each cycle. If you got pregnant on the first try twice in the past I would think that you should be fine. A single D & C shouldn't affect your fertility. I'm sorry for your loss and hope you see a second line soon!
I totally understand your frustration. We got pregnant with #1 after 8 mos trying, but then #2 was on the first try, and #3 was on the frist try as well, but it ended in m/c at 4w4d. That was in early Dec. and so far it looks like i may be pg again but i'm very cautious since it's so early. It's both a blessing and a curse to be able to get PG at the first try. It's great because we avoid the TTC cycle that can seem endless for so many women, but on the other hand, we feel like something is more obviously wrong when it doesn't happen the first time for us. I know so many women have to go through so much to get pregnant in the first place so it almost feels bad to complain, but ttc is hard for everyone when we see the bfn...whether trying for 3 years, or one month. Hopefully you get a BFP soon and we all have sticky babies!!!!!
Dont' feel bad at all! When i had a mc back in 2003 my dr told me not to try for 3 cycles after to let my body get back on track so at least you are allowed to try! I guess things are different now. But maybe your body is still getting back to normal? I'm sure you are fine
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