I'm excited! I think DH is coming around!

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AnnaRO's picture
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I'm excited! I think DH is coming around!

Looks like I may get to TTC soon!! I'm not pushing the issue, but DH has made a couple of comments the last few days about maybe having another kid! I think his resolve to be done is breaking down!! EEEP!

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I'm very excited for you!!

I have yet to convince my DH. He says doesn't want another. Sad We always said 3 kids, but after the last one he changed his mind and i am really struggling with that.

Hopefully your DH will come around soon and your BFP will swiftly follow!!

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That is EXACTLY what happened to us!! DH and I originally planned on 4, but then it took a long time to get pg with DD, so we decided on at least 3. The whole time I was pg with DS, DH was saying 3 kids. And then after DS was born he flipped on me and said he was done. So I'd bring it up now and again that I'd like another and now the last week or so he's made a few comments that lead me to believe he's changing his mind. Hopefully your DH will too!

(I'm not counting my chickens yet, but he's made about 3 comments in the last week in regards to possibly having another.)

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Wahoo! It was like Cheistmas AND my birthday when DH casually said "sure, we can try". I think is so important to let them come to it on their own, otherwise it's such a struggle. Good luck!

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Yeah, hope he does have a change of heart.

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Yeah, i tried the "dropping hints" approach for 18 months and it didn't work. We finally had a big chat a couple of months ago and he said he didn't realise that was what i wanted so much. Well, duh!!!

We're also victims of it taking too long. DH said that if we hadn't lost the first two we would have had them a lot younger, so he would be more likely to want a third. I just find it so annoying that he gets to change his mind and i have to either live with it or feel guilty for coercing him into something he doesn't want. I'm like, "We had a plan dammit!"

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Yay Anna!!!!!

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"UpBeachMom" wrote:

Wahoo! It was like Cheistmas AND my birthday when DH casually said "sure, we can try". I think is so important to let them come to it on their own, otherwise it's such a struggle. Good luck!

Oh yep yep yep. I had told my DH that my tubes were tied very early in our relationship. It was odd but I wanted him to know up front. We decided that we'd get my tubes untied when we were both ready for a baby. I made it clear that I wanted another one and he made it clear that he wanted another one at some point lol. The day he told me "I'm ready whenever you are. Let's get your tubes untied..." oh MAN it was sooo great.

Anna. I really do hope he's changing his mind. So happy for the hints. Yahoo

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That's very exciting. I as well had to drop lots of hints. We have two children almost 6years and 3 couple weeks, we had officially given away all our 'baby' gear because DH was not wanting to have another and because it was hard for both #1and even longer with #2 it wasn't going to happen.
He's changed his mind and it felt like the lottery although, this is very stressful. This has been our 6cycle. Hoping for the best. Does anyone have a limit on when they ate going to stop trying? DH and I have a time line and it's because we are getting older, and we have 2 we just don't want to be trying for years like before it gets crazy and I start going crazy with my emotions. We have a great situation with living and kids in a home daycare and schooling. Don't get me wrong I absolutely want #3 but hopes it s easier this time.

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YAY! That is great news! It always feels so awesome when they are on board with you. It melts my heart every time mine brings it up or starts imagining what color his\her eyes would be

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Congrats - good luck! I totally understand the excitement -- I had to talk DH into trying again as well Smile

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Looks like its a go! I excited and scared. We have two, so it isn't like the newborn thing is scary for me or anything, but they are 34 months and 16 months old. Having two so close together has been a major challenge and DD was a high needs baby and has become a high toddler and we are deep into the 'terrible twos' with her. On the more challenging days I wonder if I've lost my mind. We have a 3 bedroom house so two kids will have to share depending on the sex of the new baby (if there's a new baby).

I'm also nervous because TTC is a hard and sometimes very sucks-big-balls journey for us. It took 29 cycles to conceive DD and had given up and were waiting for me to finish graduate school to start IUI when we got pg on our own. DS took only 4 cycles, but I'm scared of another long journey and losing my 'perfect timing' window. I know some of this sounds downright silly to some of you, but this where I am. I hope you all don't mine me putting some of my thought process here. I think some of you can probably relate.

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Anna, I hope it's a quick time of TTC again for you, you and I both know now previous experience is not an indicator of future attempts, and in your case for the better

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I'm hoping this is the month for you, unfortunately DH and I have set a month. November will be our point of no return.
Cycle 7and so stressed.
An emotional roller coaster. I can't handle it. Such a disappointment and not knowing why Sad
Does anyone here have a plan? What's next. How long is long?

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Can't believe I am just noticing this Anna!! So excited for you!

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Oh Yay Anna!!!! Woot so excited for you!