Hi, I'm Harmony, 29 years old and married for 4.5 years with a 2-year-old DD. DH and I have been JLIH for about two years now (though I'm only really going to count the 14 months since my cycle came back), and, well... it isn't happening. DD is 25 months old, and at this point she's going to have a sibling that's at least 3 years younger than her. So we decided it was time to be a bit more proactive.
It took us 2 years of TTC to have DD. I lost two babies in the process, and I also went through a year of infertility. I know that's nothing compared to what some other women go through, but it was tough for us. And now, of course, we've been going for 23 months with no BC and nothing. So I assume there's some form of subfertility in our family.
Back when I was TTC DD, I used fertility friend and charted my BBT. But that's not really practical for me, especially since DD is still not sleeping more than 2 hours at a time, and I know all that waking affects BBT. So I'm going to be trying OPKs this time around. Does anyone have any suggestions? Are the internet cheapies just as good as the expensive store ones? Are store brands any good? Do the reusable saliva tests really work? I am completely new to this world of OPKs, so please give me lots of advice!
Also, for the last year or so I've been having very strong PMS. I've had my mom, my sister, and even at times DH convinced I was pregnant, too, because I just had so many strong symptoms. But here's the weird thing: every single month it's something different. It's become a running joke with me and DH. One month I'm so hungry I'm getting up in the middle of the night to eat. The next I've got horribly sore breasts and I'm crying three times a day. The next month I have to pee constantly and I'm super grouchy. The month after that I've got a cold that just wont' go away and I'm an insomniac. Etc, etc, etc, for the last 14 months. Is that normal for anyone else? I hardly had any PMS pre-DD.
Also, does anyone on here know anything about nursing and TTC? DD is still nursing a lot, and I've been getting a lot of conflicting information about it. If my cycle is back, does that mean I'm definitely "fertile" again? I realize that I am probably dealing with either subfertility or secondary infertility - but is the nursing, specifically, still preventing my ovulation even with a return of menstruation? Or can it cause subfertility?
Thank you for reading it all. And thank you so much for your responses!