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    Work or stay home?
    For those who work out of home, has it ever come across your mind of being a sahm? And not going back? Or waiting?
    Or is this something that will happen and carry on like your last child? Or is it different now because your trying or prego with #2 or +++
    I keep feeling that because it's taking so long, I would want to stay home, but on the other hand it's not an option financially.
    I've come to terms with that.

    Childcare would that change for any of you?


    I feel like we will be fine. Actually I know we will be just curious to know if anyone has thought about it

    DH and I both work outside of our home and let me clarify just so no one takes this post the wrong way, being a stay at home mom or dad is by far just as busy as any outside job and you guys are amazing for being able to do that!!!

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    I work outside the home. Being home for the holidays has made me sad that this is the case though - I would love to be home with my kids more. Staying at home just isn't an option though - and because the older 2 will be in full time school after my mat leave (whenever that happens!!), it's not like daycare will break me anymore than it does now.
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    I am a stay at home mom and while it is hard financially we have given up a lot for me to be able to stay home. Since our youngest has special medical needs it made more sense for me to stay home as daycare was not an option the first 3 years of his life with all this dr appts, therapy appts and such. I am going to school now to finish up my degree and once I am done even if we have a baby it will be the only one in daycare so that won't be a deal breaker.

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    I work outside the home and yes would have to return if we have another baby. Hubby has had his hours dropped recent,y so he can soend mlre time with us so we rely heavily on my income. Child care fees scare me for two though, we already pay $350 a week for one fulltime (full fees, we do get a rebate quaterly and when hubby dies his tax we should get a little bit back from the fees we have paid because we opt not to have the fee relief applied due to his schedule always changing)
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    After spending the last 2weeks with my 2dd's it made me sad. We go back to work today, one dd back to school but both back with our childcare provider, as much as I'm going to miss it, I do believe it's a whole other story if I was staying at home as its only been fun and games for the last 2 week's if I stayed home it wouldn't be like that all the time lol so I'm amazed with who can stay home. It's not easy

    As for childcare, our girls are staying with our Lady, she has stressed about keeping them even when she has her baby and she will take #3 if that ever happens, we get a little break as its in our home, both dd's will be full time in school and because of #3 she's willing to work with us, I would keep the girls with her during matt leave because I can only imagine the stress of being a caregiver and how income drops dramatically, kids leave it's not as safe as an outside job. And because she's now family.

    I just look at this as an investment for my children, it pays off, I'm happy, DH is happy and the girls so why break something that's already great right?As much as I feel I'd like to stay home, I know it's best to continue the way it is and have great times during the breaks

    Odum, it must be hard, but seems like your figuring it out and going back to school is amazing. Good for you! And it's great to hear what your thoughts are. Thanks.

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    After spending the last 2weeks with my 2dd's it made me sad. We go back to work today, one dd back to school but both back with our childcare provider, as much as I'm going to miss it, I do believe it's a whole other story if I was staying at home as its only been fun and games for the last 2 week's if I stayed home it wouldn't be like that all the time lol so I'm amazed with who can stay home. It's not easy

    As for childcare, our girls are staying with our Lady, she has stressed about keeping them even when she has her baby and she will take #3 if that ever happens, we get a little break as its in our home, both dd's will be full time in school and because of #3 she's willing to work with us, I would keep the girls with her during matt leave because I can only imagine the stress of being a caregiver and how income drops dramatically, kids leave it's not as safe as an outside job. And because she's now family.

    I just look at this as an investment for my children, it pays off, I'm happy, DH is happy and the girls so why break something that's already great right?As much as I feel I'd like to stay home, I know it's best to continue the way it is and have great times during the breaks

    Odum, it must be hard, but seems like your figuring it out and going back to school is amazing. Good for you! And it's great to hear what your thoughts are. Thanks.

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    We are almost ready to start TTC #3. Part of the reason for the age gap is because daycare is so expensive. I would be taking a year maternity leave so by the time I go back, 2 kids would be in before/after school care and one in full time daycare. That will still be cheaper than when I had 2 kids in full time daycare!

    When we still lived in the USA, I was planning on taking a year or so off after # 3 because I didn't make enough to cover 2 kids in daycare and 1 in infant care.

    My husband doesn't like the idea of me staying at home for extended periods of time (in the past 5.5 years, I have been home almost 3 years in 3 chunks of time) because he starts to get stressed about being the sole provider and worries about what happens if something happens to him and he worries that because I've had lots of education for my job that I'd start to resent him. A few years ago, I couldn't imagine staying home. Now, I'd prefer to work but if we moved somewhere where there weren't many places of employment for me, I'd stay home and have no problems with it.
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    I stay at home, and homeschool. Before we got pregnant with DD, I worked on and off, sometimes because I wanted to and sometimes because I had to (when DH was out of a job). DS has been in daycare for only 6 weeks when we were both in a work training program, and in that short time we had many problems with the daycare, after we moved back to the area where our families live he was watched by them, for way less than day cares cost (and the trust of my family.)

    Right now, we could use the second income, buying things we want would be nice, but the cost of childcare would pretty nearly offset the money earned and I refuse to put my son in public school just because we want new toys for us (DH is eyeing some pretty expensive cameras, and I would like some shiny things as well.) When we get pregnant again, the cost of daycare for two babies would be more than what I would be earning... So maybe get a summer job, but more for grownup conversations than for financial gain.





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    I work at home (hubby and I own a design business), but depending on where our business is when we finally are blessed with a child, I may even stop that work to just focus on baby. We'll see. I have been unable to work outside of the home for about 5 years because of various medical issues, some of which I've been told might be lessened by going through labor and delivery, so I suppose if we absolutely needed the income, I would go out and work and let hubby be a WAHD, since he's the one who really knows how to run the business and does the design work.
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