Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month

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AnnaRO's picture
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Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month

I know that we have members on this board who have suffered the tragic and heartbreaking loss of pregnancy. I just wanted to take a moment to post this thread to help spread awareness of how much a loss can affect a family. My mother lost three newborn children to unknown causes and the loss has affected my whole family all our lives and I know my mother still aches for those children.

Each year, approximately a million pregnancies in the United States end in miscarriage, stillbirth, or the death of the newborn child. National observance of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, 1988, offers us the opportunity to increase our understanding of the great tragedy involved in the deaths of unborn and newborn babies. It also enables us to consider how, as individuals and communities, we can meet the needs of bereaved parents and family members and work to prevent causes of these problems.

Health care professionals recognize that trends of recent years, such as smaller family size and the postponement of childbearing, adds another dimension of poignance to the grief of parents who have lost infants. More than 700 local, national, and international support groups are supplying programs and strategies designed to help parents cope with their loss. Parents who have suffered their own losses, health care professionals, and specially trained hospital staff members are helping newly bereaved parents deal constructively with loss.
-Ronald Reagan (From the Rowan Tree Foundation)

Please feel free to share your story here if you wish to help spread awareness of pregnancy and infant loss awareness. Certainly, you are not in anyway obligated to do so. My own heart goes out to all those who have been through such a loss.

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I lost two babies before DD. The first one was hard, but it was an early loss and I felt like I dealt with it very well. With the second baby, we saw its heart beat on ultrasound and felt like we could finally relax and enjoy the pregnancy. I had a follow-up ultrasound to check on an ovarian cyst, and DH wasn't supposed to come with me. I woke up that morning and begged him to stay home from work and come with me. Something just didn't feel right, and I felt like I needed his support. When we went into the ultrasound, the baby hadn't grown like it should, and there was no heart beat. I miscarried naturally about a week later. I really think that was one of the hardest things I've ever had to go through.

With DD, every little pain sent me into panic for months. I didn't mention my pregnacy on facebook until I was 7.5 months pregnant because I still didn't really believe it was going to happen.

Two ladies in our church lost babies several weeks after birth, and a friend of mine lost her 1.5 year old on Mother's Day a couple of years ago. So I know my own 'suffering' is much less than what others have been through. But it was still the hardest time in my life, by far.