I ask this because we had a family get together today at my SIL's house, it was under the guise of being a celebration for DH's birthday.
They used to pretty routinely just all show up at our house on Saturdays for get togethers here. Since SIL moved into town, some of the pressure is off of us (me) now. I hate that I don't get a notice or anything and they just show up. They just expect us to be available every Saturday for whatever they want. When they are at SIL's, they are planned a week in advance. Not that I don't enjoy getting together, I do, but I don't feel there is much respect for me. Now MIL will constantly tell me to take care of myself and not do anything strenuous when I'm pg, but I really feel like she's only worried about her grandbaby. Sorry, that kinda turned into a vent. . . .