Thinking about giving up on OPKs

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Thinking about giving up on OPKs

I've used my last OPK, and got another negative. That makes 140 negatives in a row. I'm thinking about giving up on testing until after AF shows up, but I have no idea when that will be. I'm getting awfully tired of waiting for my fertility to come back, plus these tests cost money. Dh thinks I should continue testing, because if we can catch the first egg, then I'll probably end up going four years with no AF, and, in his words, that would be awesome.

I'm just getting so frustrated! DD1 is night-weaned now, and has been for over a month. Based on everything I've read, I expected night weaning to restore my fertility. Plus, the week before Christmas I had such severe hormonal surges and got every possible symptom of impending AF, but magnified 10x what they usually are, so I was sure I would either get AF or at least a positive OPK. But still, nothing.

And it worries me because I'm not getting any younger. The goal was to have two children before age 35. Now it's not possible to have anything but a preemie before I'm 34, and I don't want that. I just feel like a window is closing.

I just needed to vent a little bit about this here. Would you continue OPKs? Is there anything else I can be doing?

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An alternative would be to just DTD every other day but then I think it would feel like you were constantly in the TTW, everything would be a possible pregnancy symptom. Have you ever tried temping?
I think what I'd probably do in your shoes is temp (not sure how accurate it would be starting now but it may show you if you do O), DTD every other day and try an HPT every other week or so. That being said I am also a POAS addict so I'd probably end up breaking down and continue OPK's anyway! LOL

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I'm sorry you've gon through so many tests. Unfortunately for some women complete weaning is the only thing that gets their fertility back. Sad I never bothered using opks before I got PPAF, we just DTD whenever and I took a pg test every 2 weeks or so.

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"ambie719" wrote:

I'm sorry you've gon through so many tests. Unfortunately for some women complete weaning is the only thing that gets their fertility back. Sad I never bothered using opks before I got PPAF, we just DTD whenever and I took a pg test every 2 weeks or so.

I would be one of those! I never got my period for 2 years while I was nursing DD!!! I loved it but I wasn't trying for my 2nd either so it wasn't bothersome for me. Can you talk to your dr about it? Maybe you can take clomid just to kick your cycle into gear? I don't know how that works tho...

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I can understand your frustration. Still nursing (and night nursing) my almost 18 month old. I didn't use opks until my first ppaf. For the first three pp cycles, I used opks only. I was ovulating late and my LP was short (

Even if I got pg today, I would be 39 before the birth of my second child. Not what we had planned. I was 33 when we started TTC #1. I wish there was an easy answer to the frustration you feel!

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Sounds to me you may be one of those people who doesn't return to fertility until you've completely weaned. Sad Maybe just go to checking CM? And BD whenever you notice EWCM? Then once AF is back go back to OPKs? No easy answer!

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"CrysRee31" wrote:

An alternative would be to just DTD every other day but then I think it would feel like you were constantly in the TTW, everything would be a possible pregnancy symptom.

Although I'd love to DTD everyday (so does DH - if we weren't always so tired from chasing a very active insomniac toddler), the idea of constantly being in a TTW is terrifying. Just as you said, everything would be a symptom. Headache? I must be pregnant. Nausea? I must be pregnant. Tired after only four hours sleep? Pregnant. I think I'd drive Dh and myself crazy!

I've decided to just give up on the OPKs until after I get AF back. I think part of my frustration is that I came up on the two-year mark for ovulation (January 9th), and for some reason, I was sure that it would come back then, I would magically catch the first egg and get pregnant, and my two daughters (because in this fantasy I have another girl) would be exactly two years apart, give or take a couple of days. And obviously, that didn't happen.

So now my plan is to wait until DD1 is 18 months old, and if AF still hasn't shown up, maybe I'll talk to my doctor about other solutions, or consider weaning her entirely. I want to let her self-wean, but I also want to get her a sibling, so she may have to give up one to get the other.