So this cycle DH and I are taking a step back and reevaluating how we want to proceed with TTC. We originally wanted to try this cycle just like we would anytime but without the IF meds. I had also decided no OPKs, no day 21 progesterone, that I just need a break in general from worrying about it and testing for it and all of that. So we thought we'd just DTD every other for like two weeks so we made sure we wouldn't miss my O date. Now I'm wondering if maybe we should just not really try but not really prevent. I'm just feeling like we've been trying SO hard and it's just been so exhausting both physically and emotionally. If all goes well I'm hoping to start Femara next cycle in which case I'll be back on the drugs and the really trying and the day 21 tests and all of that. That's really what I want to do I think but it's making me wonder what's best for this cycle. Part of me just wants to do what we want to do and not worry about it. I just don't want to get to the 2WW or around there and start wondering if it could have been different if we'd done more or something. I also hear so many stories about women who stop really trying and then it happens that I'm afraid it'll be on my mind no matter what we do. I think I'll wonder if I'm pregnant unless we do prevent and I don't want to prevent completely.
Anyone have any suggestions or has anyone been through something like this before where you're kind of taking a break? The biggest reason for the break right now is that I was crazy over Thanksgiving and I really just want to enjoy the holidays and not have all the TTC stress. Of course I want to get pregnant ASAP but it's just been so difficult and I want to feel good right now and not be so sad. I also know me and how I worry and obsess over things and I worry that no matter what we do I'll stress over the 2WW anyway even if we aren't really trying. Ugh! I'm going in circles now thinking about this. Any advice or ideas would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance ladies!
Thanks so much. I'm such an obsessive, worrying person sometimes I think that may be what's best. DH is in the process of preparing for finals which is kicking his butt right now and I'm trying to fit in all the work I can before the holidays. We're so busy already and sometimes with all of this I feel so far away from him just because I feel so alone while TTC. He's completely in this with me but when it's your body and not theirs I think you can't help but feel alone with it sometimes. I just hope I'm not still hoping when it's almost time for AF to show up. Knowing me I will be even if we don't try. I hate that I'm that way sometimes.
I agree. I don't know how your life/love life is in general, but I know for me to actually DTD every other night is a PROJECT so it wouldn't be like taking a break.
I think you and your DH should just enjoy each other this month and DTD when ever you feel like it. You need to clear your mind, re-group, and revitalize your spirit. And I'm sure DH could use a little bit too.
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I agree that EOD is a chore! I like JLIH better than TTC. We've never been the type to DTD every day or every other day. Once or twice a week is about the norm for us, and has been ever since we got married. We try to time it well during the week when I ovulate, but other than that we just let things be and are happier for it.
That's not to say that you shouldn't work hard to get pg, or that everyone should JLIH. But I think a TTC break is a really good idea every now and then, and hopefully you'll come out from it refreshed and ready to hit the ground running again.
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