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DancingNancy's picture
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Appt Update

We had our "debriefing" appt with the RE this morning to discuss the next steps and what he thinks went wrong. The biggest thing is that our embryo quality was low. We still have 2 of the "5's" and a few others that are "4's" and one or two less than that. He thinks that he may be able to 'fix' that possibly but as you know, nothing is guaranteed. We could also do another 'fresh' cycle with some added medicines and hope (and pray) that I respond as well if not better than last time. Both options comes with their own 'pros' and 'cons' and are anxiety-inducing either way. The earliest we could do anything would be the middle of Jan (so yet another Christmas w/o a prospect of a baby:-( ). I really really really hate this infertility mess. I just wish that it wasn't so hard all the time. Just if one thing could go right for once. Oh and my blood pressure is concerningly high (I have a pretty strong family hx of heart disease) so he wants me to try to destress and get a machine to check at home. Sorry to whine but I'm just done with this whole thing. I was so hoping that it would have worked and that I could be celebrating the holidays and adding an extra stocking on the mantle. Instead we'll be counting the weeks until we can try this again - whatever we decide.

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I'm glad the appointment went ok and that the RE still has options for you. Good Luck in your decision making. KUP I will be stalking you!! We are here for you to whine and complain to. :bigarmhug:

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:bighug: This is a very tough time of year!

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Awww honey, I am sorry!! Having to go through all that again and the holidays makes everything harder, in my opinion. I agree with Mandie565, sounds like your RE hasnt lost hope - and I dont think you should either. If you want my two cents, you may or may not so take it or leave it Smile I would def take the holidays to relax and enjoy your fam, DH especially and take your time in deciding. I think if finances allowed, and it sounded like you may be able to produce better quality embryos by trying a fresh cycle with different, maybe you could give that a try. Its def a difficult decision, for me, I think because you invest so much emotionally (and financially) its hard! I wish you luck in your decision... what does DH think?

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"Military Mom" wrote:

I agree with Mandie565, sounds like your RE hasnt lost hope - and I dont think you should either. If you want my two cents, you may or may not so take it or leave it Smile I would def take the holidays to relax and enjoy your fam, DH especially and take your time in deciding.

I agree about relaxing over the holidays. IVF is very stressful and it sounds like you need to take care of yourself. Remember that everything you do to care for yourself will also make a healthy pregnancy more likely!

If you can afford to try another fresh cycle I would suggest trying another. You could always come back to a FET later if needed.

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I'm glad you were able to have a f/u appt and that your RE has other options. It is so hard not to stress over IVF, I don't think it's possible. I know it doesn't seem like it, but I'm sure you will enjoy the holidays much better w/o the stress of IVF.

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Thanks for letting me whine. I'm not really feeling much better about the situation but there's not a single thing I can do about it. The package that we bought comes with 2 fresh cycles and 2 frozen cycles so fortunately, we don't have to worry about finances (since that money's already gone). We don't know whether to do a frozen now with the embroys that we already have which would be the same not-so-good quality as the last cycle or just do a whole other fresh cycle and hope I respond as well. With the frozen, we have the option of just thawing the 2 best (still 5s) or thawing them all out and hope that at least one makes it to day 5. The dr seems to think that we have the potential to lose them all but it would give us the best chances. We have a few weeks to think about it. I just hate that we have to make a decision at all. Lots of "what ifs". But I did sign up for an intro to yoga class for this Sat. I hope to start taking classes on Thursday nights called "gentle yoga". Actually looking forward to it but a little nervous to be out of my comfort zone. Thanks again for supporting me. I really do appreciate it. I know that we are virtually strangers but it's so comforting to know that there are people who understand what it's like.

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"DancingNancy" wrote:

Thanks for letting me whine. I'm not really feeling much better about the situation but there's not a single thing I can do about it. The package that we bought comes with 2 fresh cycles and 2 frozen cycles so fortunately, we don't have to worry about finances (since that money's already gone). We don't know whether to do a frozen now with the embroys that we already have which would be the same not-so-good quality as the last cycle or just do a whole other fresh cycle and hope I respond as well. With the frozen, we have the option of just thawing the 2 best (still 5s) or thawing them all out and hope that at least one makes it to day 5. The dr seems to think that we have the potential to lose them all but it would give us the best chances. We have a few weeks to think about it. I just hate that we have to make a decision at all. Lots of "what ifs". But I did sign up for an intro to yoga class for this Sat. I hope to start taking classes on Thursday nights called "gentle yoga". Actually looking forward to it but a little nervous to be out of my comfort zone. Thanks again for supporting me. I really do appreciate it. I know that we are virtually strangers but it's so comforting to know that there are people who understand what it's like.

I always wished for a crystal ball to help with the IF decisions.

Hope you enjoy the yoga class. Not sure if you're a competitive type or not, but try not to worry about what other people are doing and start with props to prevent overstretching. And don't forget to breathe and enjoy yourself! Wink

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I think you'll really enjoy yoga. I do yoga. I find that the 1 1/2 that I'm practicing I hate it, but I feel so good afterwards. What I like about yoga is that it's your own workout and you can go at your pace. At least that's how I assume most yoga classes are, maybe not. I take yoga with women in their 70's-80's and they can stretch better than I can.

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I agree the holidays suck!! Hang in there... Big hugs!!