Tiffany...I hope your blood pressure and cough get under control soon. How are the twins doing? I'm sure it's a bit scary with them being a few weeks early, but it's good you have the medical background. I'm sure it's hard when it's your own babies though.
It's a hard decison on what to do with a remaining embie. I'm sure right now you never want to be pregnant again after having just gone through a twin pregnancy, complications and c-section. When I was pregnant my 2nd cycle I was thankful that we didn't have any frozen embies. Then I didn't have to make the decision on what to do with them because we knew we only wanted one (or two, if twins) baby. But that pregnancy ended, so then I thought it would've been nice to have a frozen one. A former co-worker of mine just gave birth yesterday to baby girl that had a frozen embie transferred. She had gone through an IVF cycle about a year before I started my first one. That cycle didn't work and they had one, poor quality, frozen embie. I remember her wondering what to do with it since it was one and of poor quality. Since then her and her husband have adopted 5 kids through fostering. Last spring they decided to transfer that lonely, poor quality embie and she got pregnant. So it can happen with a poor quality frozen embie. She said through her research she found FET more successful than fresh cycles because the body hasn't been through all the stress.
We are taking plenty of toothbrushes in case we accidently put them under the water. That will probably be the hardest part. Just remembering to not do things we do everyday here. Unfortunatley, I don't think we'll be able to drink wine. I'm sure they don't serve it at the mission compound. I'm very paranoid about things so hopefully it will be to my benefit. One lady that's gone quite a few times before said one day she prayed she wouldn't poop her pants since she was kind of sick. I'm also taking a stash of emergency drugs...immodium, phenergan, valium, meclizine, Cipro, etc. Tiffany...let me know if you think of any other drugs to take in case of emergencies. DH and I are doing our typhoid immunization right now. We kept forgetting since it's to be taken every other day 1 hr before meals. We are 1/2 done.
I've spent the last 3 hrs taking ornaments off the tree. I am down to the last child's tote. We have a ton or ornaments but it makes the tree so pretty. It looks kind of blah right now.
Tiffany...how does DS like the twins?
I will have to cross that bridge with our frozen embie when we get there. Certainly I just need to put it out of my mind anyway for the next year. It will be hard to do, but I know we will have our hands more than full.
Having twins has been wonderful and crazy. We are so happy and so much more relaxed in many ways as these are our second/third children. However, having one normal newborn and one that acts like a premie is weird. The normal one makes us worry that much more about the premie-acting one. I made a paranoid call to our pediatrician today. She probably thinks I am really crazy as this is our first interaction, but between me having some medical knowledge, the anxiety of twin/IVF/just-out-of-the-NICU parenthood and post-partum emotionality I am a little crazy right now. At least I know it. Even DH who is steady and reasonable even in the worst circumstances admits he is a little anxious right now too. I worry about every tiny thing with them, but I know that will get better - with time.
DS wants to help with the twins. Some of the help he does is not very helpful. Also he wants nothing to do with anyone who is not mom and dad so it is impossible for our help to be very helpful with him. The beautiful thing is that I am starting to feel better and interact with him more. My parents are coming and are going to take him to Chucky Cheese. We haven't taken him yet. Also, we will need to go over to his parents house all as a family soon so he starts to have a normal relationship with them as well. He is not mean, but he is definitely rejecting all that is not mom or dad right now. Because one of the twins often will sleep with me, DH ends up sleeping with him some which is helpful in helping him not feel as abandoned.
I see the cardiologist on Monday to make sure some things are better. I don't want the whole medical campus to know my medical history so my cardiologist might end up being my "primary care doctor" as long as he is willing to. There is not much I need, but I do need a follow up chest x-ray and I am not sure the labetalol prescribed by my ob is the best drug for me given my recent flu-like illness as the bronchospasm is problematic for me right now.
DH has basically had the work he was doing completely dry up. I am so happy to be doing this project with him. I think we have pretty much decided that except for one call weekend I am going to be off until the end of March. I might get bored. It might not be the best financially, but after what we have been through we need some boring days. Hopefully my work will be ok with that. I know I will be happy to go back then. We can't both stay home forever. I do get a little longer short term disability due to my complications, so that will help.
The wine comment was a bit of a joke. I know the girls cannot have it. But in case you end up leaving the mission at all and end up in a store, coca cola is usually safe and also a nice reminder of home.
Tiffany...I'm sure it's easy to compare one twin to the other. Glad you are able to be a bit more comfortable with already having had a baby to take care of. I can't imagine how overwhelmed you must feel. Hopefully you come to a "new normal" soon. That should be fun for DS to go to Chuckie Cheese. It's a huge change to him I'm sure. Once all of your cardiac stuff clears up hopefully you won't need a doc. It would be nice for your cardiologist to just be your PCP. Hopefully work will be very understanding of you taking a little extra time off.
We watched the girls' dance class tonight. It was supposed to be before Christmas break but they didn't have class because of snow. It has rained all day here...weird in January. Hopefully the temp doesn't drop too much and cause icy roads.
I think my dad "snuck" a beer one night when he was in Nicaragua. The girls aren't going to be going with us. They get to stay home with DH's parents. With it being each of our first time on a mission trip, we wanted to go without them. I filled out their passport applications for our cruise. DH's mom and sister have been on my back about getting them. I'm not concerned at all since our cruise is over 4 months away and the lady at the post office said to allow 6-8 weeks to get the passports. DH's and mine came in 3 weeks. His family is worried that we won't get them in time. They should know by now that I'm a fairly responsible person and if I thought we needed to apply earlier, I would've. Even if they don't come in time, we'll still be ok because all we really need is the girls' birth certificates. We're just doing the passports because if something happens in some country and we have to fly home, we won't be able to get home. Also, it may make going in and out of ports quicker.
I won't even really try to catch up here too much! But, Margaret, glad you are feeling better and good luck with the job process. Meg, sounds like you have some exciting trips coming up. I have never travelled to that part of the world, so no advice on the water from me. Tiffany, I am glad you have your boys home and that you are starting to feel better. I would feel the same way about keeping your medical history to fewer rather than more people. And I am not even a doctor. But it must make it feel a little difficult to have privacy if some of your co-professionals are also your physicians.
I'll chime in about the frozen embryos. I have recurring guilt episodes over ours. Actually, I don't even really know how many we have or their quality. At the time we transferred, the doctor thought we'd have 3, potentially 4 to freeze, but that was the last we ever talked about it. I know we can't use them. I know more than 3 kids would not be a good choice for us. I know my husband would never agree to an FET because he absolutely does not want more children. I know I can't live with potentially adopting them out. (this I realize is pretty selfish, but I couldn't imagine knowing my "child" was out there somewhere, not with me).
When I told my husband I felt guilty about the "unused embryos", his response was, "I have lots of unused sperm that I'm not worried about!" I struggled with this before doing IVF. It was probably the primary reason I hesitated for so long. Eventually, I came to the conclusion that without IVF, none of them would have ever existed due to my problems, so leaving them unused would be like never having them in the first place. I know at some point after the birth of this child, I'll probably have a total meltdown about it. Good luck with your decision Tiffany. I think it would be harder for me to decide if we just had one......it is truly unrealistic for us to eventually transfer 4 embryos with the potential for 7 total children.
It is one of the things that makes this whole thing unfair, even after being successful with the process. The choices are very difficult.
Kara...thanks for joining us here :). I, too, had thought about donating my embies if I had any left and I really didn't think I could do it. If so, I would've wanted them to be donated to someone across the country. One of my friends from HS did IVF and had 15 or so embies frozen she donated to our clinic 1 1/2 hrs away. That's just too close for me. No matter what the outcome is throughout IF treatment, it is unfair and difficult.
The girls are going away for the weekend. They are going to their bio mom's sister's house for their Christmas celebration. I plan on doing a whole lot of nothing this weekend. I need to buy stuff to give our girl we sponser in Nicaragua. We've sponsered her for the past 5 years. When groups go down we make up packages to be given to your sponsered child. My parents and sister met her last year and we'll be able to meet her this year so I wanted to make up a special bag for her. She's 12 years old.
Meg- I hope you have a relaxing weekend. I know if something happened to me I would want my husband and children go be happy and loved, but I would also want them to have a relationship with my family. I am sure it is nice to get some "me" time in and should be fun to find something for your sponsored child in Nicaragua.
I guess I am not bothered by having our emby donated but people are not interested in one frozen embryo. My kids look foreign to me anyhow right now (the babies) and I guess I would be happy knowing something good came of the experience.
Also I am not convinced how much stress has to do with getting pregnant or not. Women in Syria still get pregnant for example. Certainly I was super stressed for my cycle.
DH and I were able to go out for pizza once the girls left last evening. We figured if he got called away, pizza is something that is easy to take with and doesn't usually take long. My parents are going to come up tonight to go out for dinner for my dad's bday on Monday. Hopefully DH can make it. We got the tree down and put away. It's a task since it's about a 300lb tree and it has to be hoisted up to a shelf in the garage.
Tiffany...very good point that ppl stressed do seem to get pregnant, esp. in Syria.
Donating embies: not an issue for us but I know my SIL wondered about what to do with theirs after the triplets. For awhile they thought they may do another cycle but it took 3 for the trips and as she got older was worried about having another set of multiples. Not sure what they did do. The triplets are 15 in March! I can't believe they were 3 when I met them for the first time.
Kara - thanks, I am feeling much better and had some great interviews this week. There are tons of jobs in our area it is just taking some time.
Great news! My disability was FINALLY approved. I am being paid out from June 1-January 27th! Should have the money in our account by Monday!!! Having had no pay for so long it will be nice to pay off some of the credit we accumulated while I was not able to work. My jaw is doing so much better. It is going to mess up our taxes for 2013 but oh well. Hopefully they do not take off too much tax.
Sean starts his new job on Monday. I think he is excited and super nervous. Sean is super shy (I had to ask him out, I also proposed) and so meeting new people is hard.
Robbie is at my MIL's and Sean is out with friends tonight so I am going to go see Les Miz. Might be going alone or with a friend, just depends. I saw it twice live and love it!
Margaret...that's great your disability was finally approved. I always hated starting new jobs. I would be so nervous because I am a super shy person until I get to know ppl. That's great there are so many jobs in your area. Ppl talk about not being able to find a job and no place hiring which I find untrue. Most likely that person isn't really searching. DH does pre-employment physicals for numerous companies in the area and he is always busy with them, so places are hiring all the time. Enjoy Les Miz! I can't wait until it comes to our theater in town. My parents saw it a few nights ago and my mom said she'll go again.