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    Tiffany...good job to you for being almost done with your IM residency. My DH is a Family Practice physician. I didn't go through all the med school/residency fun of it with him. I got him after all that was done and he was an established physician. Good luck tomorrow at work.

    Are you going to be moing to MN? If so, what part? I live in IA and MN is only about 2 1/2 hrs from me.

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    Meg-
    Do you have a lot of mommy duties with your adopted daughters? Do you like being a stepmom? What kind of nursing did you do? About where in Iowa are you living? I am sure you have answered all these questions a thousand times...

    My husband was there with me from the minute I decided to go to medical school through pre-reqs, applications, interviews, cadaver lab, etc. A lot of marriages did not make it through that, but I don't think life after medical school or residency will be a piece of cake either. These have been some amazing years in our marriage. I have definitely been changed by the experience, but luckily he loves me anyway. I am certainly not the carefree 18 yr old he fell in love with.

    We are moving to a town about an hour north of Minneapolis. My grandma lives in Breda, IA which is near Carroll and we plan to visit her a few times a year. In fact, we visit her a few times a year now... so imagine when we are only 5 hrs away.

    I hope I found a sweet place to practice. There is huge demand (or at least there was in December when they hired me), I get to follow my own patients in the hospital but the hospitalists cover at night, admit, etc. And it is only 1:7 weekends. Most of the moms there are working 80% time. If hubby becomes a SAHD, I might work 100% time just to make up for the lost income. Also 4 weeks of vacation the first two years, and 6 after that - and all the partners actually take their vacation. There are some cons too, but it got me to consider leaving my family and the sunny south. Guaranteed salary the first two years. I am not looking forward to learning the politics of a new place. My MIL is in charge of nurse education and hiring. We are excited to be at the same hospital.

    Oh, and none of my family or his know we are doing IVF... and we have to take up our medicines with us when we visit because I start taking menopur while we are up there. We will need some fridge space. They are very devout Catholics. My dad is studying to be a deacon. It's serious. Which is why I am so glad there is a place like this where I can at least talk to someone about what we are going through. Later, when we adopt, I know they will be wildly supportive.

    So, thank you.

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    I live about 2 hrs north of Des Moines. Carroll is probably only about 1 hr 40 minutes southwest of me. One of my mom's really good friend lives in Carroll. I think she's a school counselor and her husband is the prinicpal or administrator of the high school there. That's so nice that you visit your grandma so much.

    Children mentioned...
    I pretty much do everything with the girls...take them to school, pick them up, take them to dance, piano, make sure homework is done, piano is done, etc. DH helps out a ton when he is home. With his current job he's not around as much. I like being a stepmom. The girls are very independant girls and I couldn't ask for easier children. I don't consider myself a stepmom and the girls don't look at me as their stepmom. I've known the girls since they were little. They were 3, 4 and 5 when we met. I'm the only mom our youngest remembers. I don't get the "your not my mom" stuff with them which is nice. My sister, on the otherhand, is a step-mom to her DH's daughter and she has her challenges. I did med/surg nursing. I went PRN after DH and I got married then they just never called me so I was taken off the schedule. Right now I'm working 1 afternoon/week for a plastic surgeon but resigned from that d/t some conflicts with my summer schedule.

    I'm sure it will take you a while to get yourselves established after starting your new job. DH has told me some of the things his first wife had to go through with interviews and all that stuff. I'm quite happy that I met him after that was all said and done.

    My best friend, who I met on another IVF forum, lives about 1 hr west of Minneapolis. We have so much in common. Her DH's first wife passed away also. She just completed her FP residency last June and started at a practice outside of Minneapolis. I think she really likes it. Her DH is a SAHD. He used to be a band teacher but got tired of it and now stays at home. What practice are you going to be working for? That'd be funny if it was the same one. It sounds like a good place to work. We go up to Mpls every November for a little shopping trip to the MOA.

    My DH is the Medical Director at a Community Health Center. He's been doing that now for about 15 months. He worked at the CHC part time before that but took over as director in Jan 2011. He's put his resignation in and will be done with that job on May 29. He's counting down his days. The politics just became too much and they were way too busy there with not enough providers and he felt he couldn't provide the medicine that was needed with the resources he was given. He's going to go back to doing locums work for ERs. He worked in a private FP clinic up until his wife passed away in 2005. Then he went to full-time ER to be home more with the girls. So he'll be going back to that. It's really nice because he'll do most of his hours at the local ER. He can be home unless there is a pt in the ER. Like today he's been on-call and he just left to go see his 4th pt of the day. It's a really small ER. During the summers he'll do some shifts at an ER by our lake house. I really like the ER schedule because he gets to be home a lot more. He "works" more hours, but doesn't actually "work" as hard when he is there. He wants to do anywhere from 250-400 hrs/month.

    I can understand not wanting family to know you are doing IVF. My DH and his family are Catholics. His brother is a very devout one. We told everyone in his family but that brother what we were doing. We weren't going to tell anyone but kind of felt forced to because we were trying to plan a family funeral around my ER.

    Sorry I wrote so much. I probably bored everyone but find it interesting with what you are going to be doing and that you are going to be moving close by. I just wanted to explain a little background on us.

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    IVF #1-cancelled d/t embryos arresting before transfer (3/09)
    IVF #2-BFP 9wks-7/30/09 (6/09)
    IVF #3-BFN (5/10)

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    Phew....I just about threw up. When I went to add this I thought it lost my last reply I typed up. I was going to be so mad, but it was there.

    Anyways....what I came back to say Tiffany. I cannot imagine doing an IVF cycle while going through residency. As if residency or IVF isn't demanding enough, then to add the other in there, it would be so hard. But you are doing and you are strong for doing it. When I was doing my IVF cycles and driving back and forth to appts I'd think "I'm so glad I don't have a job to work all this around." My friend that I was telling you about did her IVF while she was finishing up her last year of residency. She did it.

    Another thing about Minneapolis. I did my last IVF cycle there. My first 2 I did in DSM and drove 2 hrs there and 2 hrs back for my monitoring. I was not happy at that clinic so had a consult in Mpls and really liked the clinic so we chose to do our last cycle there. I drove 3 1/2 hrs there and 3 1/2 hrs back every other day for my appts. It really stunk to be in a car 7 hrs for a 10 minute appointment. We calculated in hotel expense and all that and it was just as cheap and easier for me to come home each time.

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    IVF #1-cancelled d/t embryos arresting before transfer (3/09)
    IVF #2-BFP 9wks-7/30/09 (6/09)
    IVF #3-BFN (5/10)

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    How is/was everyone's weekend? We made it up to our lake house and back. I was really worried about the storms they were predicting. We were on the northern edge of that bad storm they predicted in the midwest. I almost stayed home because I'd rather be at home if we were to have tornadoes. We have a basement at our lake house but the one at home is probably more sturdy. We also don't have TV at the lake but I brought the weather radio. We just had some rain, thunder and lightning. Nothing bad. A town in southern IA had a tornado that hit the hospital. I don't think there were any major injuries but not sure since I haven't watched the news.

    We got lots done at our lake house. We washed all the windows-inside and out, all the blinds, dusted everything, vacummed and washed off the deck. We also found something to hang on the front of the house. Now when we go up for Memorial Day weekend we can play instead of work.

    DH is working out of town tonight. We dropped a car off at the hospital he's working at on the way and dropped him off there tonight on the way home. It works out well.

    Hope everyone had a good weekend.

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    IVF #1-cancelled d/t embryos arresting before transfer (3/09)
    IVF #2-BFP 9wks-7/30/09 (6/09)
    IVF #3-BFN (5/10)

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    What a story. What a gift you are to your children and your DH. I can't imagine how I would go on if something happened to DH. I would definitely be pretty wounded after that.

    We had my SIL for the weekend (in fact she is still here). Since I finished my work, we have been shopping, eating and playing our way through the weekend. Today at lunch we are going to a fancy restaurant (can't afford dinner there). Then later we are going to get pedicures. I am trying to take care of myself. And be a good hostess.

    And it is somewhat stressful explaining that I need to go for this appt or that. But I have given them three good years and I need to get this done. I will not have time to be making a drive when I start my practice. I try to keep interruptions to a minimum, but it is going to get crazy in a few weeks.

    I should get my AMH level back this week and I am definitely curious about that. Stopping BCPs Tuesday.

    7 hrs is crazy! I don't blame you though. I am driving out of my way to see my doc and there are about 10 to choose from in Dallas. The closest one to my practice in Minnesota is crazy expensive compared to here. I am not sure what we will do.

    I don't think I am cut out for politics either. But I do think I found a practice where I can provide good quality care and be paid appropriately. All the docs take their vacation (6 weeks after year 2). I get my own RN (and did I say that my MIL hires and trains the RNs at our hospital). There are no FPs in the practice I am joining. I can PM you personally the details, and though someone could figure it out, I don't want to get fired from my job over being careless. I looked at the FP practice in town, but they do not admit and I want to keep my inpatient skills sharp because I still love the hospital. They also wanted me for my internal medicine expertise, and I do not feel like an expert yet. I need mentors and my IM practice has tons of them.

    **child ment***






    I am not sure that I mentioned that I have a 3 year old son. It took us a long time to conceive him, but we were able to do so without IVF. Pretty sure I am taking a break from fertility related stuff after this. We really wanted him to have a sibling close in age, but it does not look like that is going to happen. I am definitely becoming more used to that idea.

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    How is everyone? Having a good start to a week?
    Well, my extended weekend was uneventful and a little boring. DH went to the lake on Saturday, while MIL and I lounged on my bed watching tv. MIL did not let me do anything, she cooked, cleaned and did laundry. Yesterday, was little more fun. We played board games for 6 hours on the back porch Today I am back at work and I must say I don't feel like doing anything
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    The week is starting out well even though I haven't done much yet.

    Sounds like you had a nice relaxing weekend Mimi. What games did you play? DH and I played some Yahtzee on Saturday night. Since we don't have TV at our lake house we play a lot of games at night. Our favorite when we have a lot of ppl there is Phase 10. I'm sure it's hard to get back into the routine of work after having a lot of time off.

    Tiffany...sounds like you had a fun weekend with your SIL. Have fun having dinner at the fancy restuarant. Sounds like you are being a wonderful hostess. That's cool that your MIL hires and trains the nurses. Having a good nurse is very important to making a successful/productive physician. I'll PM you to talk about more work related stuff.

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    IVF #1-cancelled d/t embryos arresting before transfer (3/09)
    IVF #2-BFP 9wks-7/30/09 (6/09)
    IVF #3-BFN (5/10)

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    Quote Originally Posted by meggyrn View Post
    Mimi...what program do you use to edit your pictures? I know you said it before but I can't remember.
    Sorry I failed to reply earlier. I use Adobe Lightroom 3.
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    1st IVF - February/March 2012-Cancelled due to low response
    2nd IVF - March/April-BFN
    Surprise natural BFP on Mother's Day 5/11/2014

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    No problem Mimi!

    Jenni....are you around today? I hope everything is going ok and you are just busy at work.

    Meg-30 DH-42

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    IVF #1-cancelled d/t embryos arresting before transfer (3/09)
    IVF #2-BFP 9wks-7/30/09 (6/09)
    IVF #3-BFN (5/10)

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