FET Cycle (kind of long...)

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Military Mom's picture
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FET Cycle (kind of long...)

Hi Ladies!

So I am almost off sea duty just a few short weeks with some days off in between and several weeks off before checking into my new command and I am on Calendar Day 2. I called the clinic yesterday and made an appt for my SHG and will start my birth control pills Tues (CD 4). The last time I went through IVF, I was a nervous wreck and it was 5 years ago. I remember the overall procedure and everything but dont recall much of a timeline and with an FET - its slightly different. I wondered if you ladies who have already been through FET's could help me out? The lady at the doctor's office basically told me that it takes roughly 5-6 weeks but cant really give me a date and we will talk about it when I go in for my next appt. I understand she cant give info over the phone and thats part of the point of the appt but I am trying to have an idea of when I can expect to the do the transfer. I know it can vary but from your experience with 5 day blasts - what is your experience, timeline wise, of how your FET went?

On a separate note, I told myself and my husband (who is currently in Afghanistan but will be home for his 2 weeks R/R in December) that we will go through it - go big or go home... thaw all embryos Diablo and transfer as many as the doctor will allow (I am thinking thats 3) and if it isnt successful we will be ok with that. I am 32 and really, I dont know if I want to go through anymore fertility treatments after this. To be fair, I did tell my husband that I was open to doing another IVF cycle or whatever he wanted to do but really I dont know if emotionally, or financially we can do it. I was ok up until Calendar Day 1 actually came and then I was online trying to read success stories and Facts on FET's and how would I feel if its not successful and automatically started freaking out! I dont want to set myself up for disappointment and am trying to be realistic but you know you cant help but to be emotional and invested when it comes to this. I emailed my husband and just asked him to let me deal with this on my own. If he wants to know how the appt go or anything, its not that I wont tell him, i just would prefer to not make a big deal out of it in case it doesnt work. I think he understands and probably didnt mind.

So any advice, stories, experiences with FET would be much appreciated!! Thank you Smile

mrs.doolittle's picture
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I went through 2 fresh cycles, never a FET, but wanted to let you know that I completely understand not wanting to get too emotionally invested. Take it one day and one appointment at a time! Wishing you the best of luck!

DancingNancy's picture
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No experience with FET but I did want to wish you well.

And thank you to you and your husband for all of the sacrfices you make.

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I don't have any experience with FET. I understand about you wanting a timeline of what to expect. I hate that you loose control during IVF. I'm glad that you are open to being done with fertility treatments if this cycle doesn't work. Dr. Google can always scare the crap out of anyone.

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I did 2 FET cycles and will have another in the future.

From my experience the FETs are a walk in the park. From the day I started AF until I had my transfer was about 2 weeks or so, about the same frame as it would be for me to ovulate on my own. I didn't do BCPs before hand though. I took Estrace 2-3 times a day leading up to the transfer and then the steroid (or was it an antibiotic?) right before it and then the lovely PIO shots right after transfer. Way less meds to remember and less side effects.

I wish I had my schedule to tell you exactly how it went but that was about 4 years ago. Good luck!

Military Mom's picture
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Ladies, thanks for all the well wishes! Smile

Jenn0113, 2 weeks really? Wow. They are having me start BCP on CD 4 - today, my SHG is on CD 12 (the 9th) and then my consult isnt until the 14th of Nov (CD 17). Shouldnt I be starting some type of hormone or anything? I think I just thought it would been different than this?

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I have not done an FET (but will some time in the future). But I just wanted to offer my support and wish you well as you begin your cycle.

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"Military Mom" wrote:

Ladies, thanks for all the well wishes! Smile

Jenn0113, 2 weeks really? Wow. They are having me start BCP on CD 4 - today, my SHG is on CD 12 (the 9th) and then my consult isnt until the 14th of Nov (CD 17). Shouldnt I be starting some type of hormone or anything? I think I just thought it would been different than this?

Did they say the FET would be in Nov? Sounds like they are having you on BCP so they can manipulate your cycle better. You do need to take some kind of estrogen before the FET to trick your body into thinking its a natural cycle. If that makes sense.

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Joined: 03/01/08
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Good Luck with your FET. I am doing a fresh 2nd round so I have nothing to be able to help.

"meggyrn" wrote:

I don't have any experience with FET. I understand about you wanting a timeline of what to expect. I hate that you loose control during IVF. I'm glad that you are open to being done with fertility treatments if this cycle doesn't work. Dr. Google can always scare the crap out of anyone.

Meg- Hit it 100%. I hate not having a time line with IVF. I'm trying to make plans for the rest of the week and I can't not know when things are going to happen.

Dr Google is my frenemy!! I've been trying to ween myself and it does help some. Good Luck!! KUP!

Military Mom's picture
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I think the transfer is actually going to be more so in thebeginning of December? Thats sort of what I am trying to figure out. I emailed the doctor's asst to see if she can help me understand how this wiell work and basically she told me that we will cover everything at the consult Sad I cant wait that long!!! Ugggghhh LOL She said the entire process is about 5-6 weeks which seems like forever, actually Wink And yes, google is def not helping me because its making me ask more questions, and not necessarily answering the questions I already have. I am just getting super anxious!

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:bighugs: I'm hoping it will fly by for you!

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I do not have experience w/ FET, just fresh cycle but I wanted to wish you luck and I hope the waiting part goes by quickly for you.

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I was always happy to have my calendar in hand! Made it easier for me once I knew what would happen when.

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