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Forgotten?

Let me clarify that this is not meant in any way as a "Woe is me" post. I'm actually feeling pretty good emotionally. I just wonder, for those that have done more than one cycle especially, if it feels like people forget that you are going through subsequent cycles? I completely get that people's lives go on (as they should) and that for us it doesn't. It just seems like we had a TON of encouragement and acknowledgement during our fresh cycle and now we are getting very little (from people IRL - y'all are awesome!). If anything, I have more to be anxious and worried about this cycle than last since we know that the odds are against us. Anyone else dealt with this? Or am I just expecting too much of people? Again, I'm not upset per se about it. I just think it's incredibly odd.

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Maybe ppl think since you've been through it you know what to expect. It's always hard to know what ppl are thinking. No matter how many cycles you do it doesn't get any easier since the same stress is still there. Just know that we are thinking of you here and rooting you on.

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After our first failed IVF cycle I think the people who knew IRL didn't know how to respond when we were trying again. It was like they saw how disappointed I was the first time and didn't know what to say the second time so they didn't say anything. Depending on who it is, you might try being specific with them about what you need for support. Can't tell you how many times I had to set my DH down and give him details. Good luck with your FET cycle!

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I have not had to deal with that yet and hoping I don't have to. We have not told many people we are going thru this either. Only our immediate family and my boss. My brother does not know, but that is because his wife has a "big mouth" and I hate when people expect you to keep something from your spouse.
I just think that most people are uncomfortable with sensitive situations. I am always afraid that I might say something that will be misunderstood or seem insensitive. I think that is why most will keep quiet rather than say something that could potentially upset you.

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Thanks ladies! I think one of the worst things, for me at least, is when people who don't know what to say just don't say anything. I try really hard to let people know I'm thinking of them - send a quick email or a card or call them and I guess I unfairly expect the same in return. Oh well. It is what it is. Y'all are a great support and DH, when he's here, is as well. I'm just a little nervous and sad to do this without on Tuesday. But not much that can be done about that. And hopefully that just means that it will work out and be a great story one day.