Got the call.

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deborah74's picture
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Got the call.

But missed it. Dh just brought me the phone.
We were told to expect a call around 1pm.

The RE called and left a message at 9:15 but we never heard the phone.

I called back to hear the news, no eggs fertilized. They are going to try a rescue ICSI. Its been almost 24 hours since my ER and they are just starting it now.

After all of this time I know our chances are probably %5 now, and thats just to have some fertilize, then there is my womb to consider....

I'm numb.

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I am so sorry Deb. I will be praying the ICSI works and that everything else goes smoothly. I wonder why they didn't call sooner?

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Oh my, Deb. I am so, so sorry to hear this. How many eggs did they retrieve? I will be praying that you can get one or two fertilized! (((hugs)))

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Oh Deb.... I am sooo sorry. :bigarmhug: I can imagine how devatated you are right now... PM me anytime if you want to talk/vent/b!tc#... I understand!

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oh Deb.... i'm praying that the icsi will work.....know you're in my thoughts... :bighugs:

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Oh Deb - I'm so sorry. I was hoping to log in and see good news for you. I've got everything crossed the ICSI will do the trick. :bighug:

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The RE called. ICSI didn't work. This cycle is over.

We planned on only one IVF treatment.

I don't know how to express my feelings. I'm in a fog.

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Deborah...I am so so sorry! :bigarmhug: If you want to talk you can PM me. I have a feeling I was in the same situation as you are. Take time to grieve and heal.

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Deb, I'm so sorry. Big hugs to you.

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I'm so sorry.

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Oh Deb, oh Deb.

I am so so so beyond sorry to read this.

I can't believe it.

Really wanted this to work for you.

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So sorry to hear about this. We have all been there so feel free to vent.

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I'm so sorry to hear this news. :cry:


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Sad :bighug: I'm so sorry. :bighug: Sad

HawkIgirl's picture
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I'm so sorry to hear that the ICSI didn't work. I had been praying that this would work for you.

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Tried to send you a PM and obviously your inbox is overflowing with the outpouring of love from all the lovely ladies here..

:cry: My heart is breaking for you.

I thought you were having ICSI anyway so I was stunned and floored when this was not done until it was late in the cycle :cry:

Praying for you Debs.

Love you sweets (((((((((((((((((((CHOCOLATE HUGS)))))))))))))))))

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I am so very sorry.

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:bigarmhug: I am so sorry your cycle didn't work. I know how much you went through to get here.

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I'm so sorry, hun. :bigarmhug:

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I'm so very sorry Deb. Sad

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I am so sorry, Deb. My heart breaks for you. :bigarmhug:

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Sad So sorry Deborah

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Deb - I am so so sorry this cycle turned out like this. So NOT what I prayed for you. We are here for you. Please vent wherever you need. You are in my thoughts. Sending you tons of hugs - hope you can truly feel them.

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Thank you. I do feel you all hugging me.

I'm in literal tears right now. I appreciate you all so much, I couldn't have gone thru this long journey without you.

Do you think my eggs are too hard to crack?

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Again Deb, I'm so sorry. :bigarmhug:

Glad to hear that everyone here has helped you along.

Do you have any MFI? That could affect fertilization. I'm just wondering why they didn't do ICSI to begin with. I wish I had some answers for you. Have you spoken with your RE to see if he has any answers as to why none fertilized?

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So sorry Deb. Thinking of you.

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Had a nice few days playing tour guide to our out of town guests. Took them to Whistler and went to the Olympic Villiage. Tomorrow the Capilano Suspension Bridge and Stanley Park.

Its been good to be busy. Physically i'm feeling much better, peeing alot and I have a cold now. I'm scared about what AF will be like both cramp wise and emotionally.

We have unexplained IF so there was 'no need' for ICSI. I havn't called for a follow up appt yet. The RE said to call when i'm ready. Sigh.

We only attempted to fertilize three eggs. Some of you will remember, you see they were all supposed to fertilize and then we were transferring all three.... and we were supposed to have twins or maybe triplets. Didn't work out that way. I know our chances are much lower doing that but our hearts/minds made that the only option to try. Our dr's were awesome about it as I guess lots of others do the same.

I havn't made any decisions about going forward. I can't think about it yet. I kindof want to try one more time, go straight to ICSI and try 4 eggys....

The only thing holding me back is $$$. And i'm not so sure in my heart that it would work anyways...

I know we can all relate to some of that.

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:bigarmhug: Do what you need to do to grieve and process all of this. I do think the follow-up with the RE once you feel up to it will provide you with a little bit of closure. He might also have some ideas as to what happened. After all, none of us are doctors, even though we know about as much as they do or more about our bodies and how previous treatments have worked. I am not sure about the egg question and that would be a good question for your RE. It could be that this cycle also took you from unexplained IF to a definite IF category, which doesn't really help all the ups and downs of all of it, but at least it might give you an answer.

As far as deciding on another cycle, only you and your DH can really decide what is right for you. It is a hard decision when you are talking about so much money. Just know that I am here for you anytime. Hugs!

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I just wanted to give you a big hug *HUGS* Know that I'm thinking of you and wishing for a positive outcome in all of this. I'd definitely make an appt. with RE when you are ready... like Mel said, they can give us answers to our questions or solutions/alternatives for the next cycle. I know you may not be ready for another cycle but at least you'd know what is ahead.