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    Hey ladies,

    I'm not so new to pg.org, but new to the whole IVF thing. DH has cancer and is currently doing chemo. Fortunately, DH was able to bank some semen at the fertility clinic before he started for our future-family. The 'fresh' count was good, not great, but his post thaw count was not good at all. They measure out the deposit into 0.3ml 'straws' so they can thaw whatever we need, and the count on the straw that they thawed for testing was 100,000. We were told that to do an IUI they want at least 1 million, and therefore, in our case, we'd be using 10 of the 15 straws that are frozen. As a result, we were told that IVF would be our best option.

    Sure, we could wait out DH's treatment and hope that he is part of the 50% that regains fertility, BUT in addition to those odds, we were advised not to try naturally for two years post-chemo due to the increased risks of birth defects. That was a blow that I wasn't expecting.

    Anyways, on the way home from treatment today, DH asked when I'd like to start the IVF process. Initially, I was leaving the decision up to him because I know how I handle stress and I think we can do it, but didn't want to pressure him. I'm almost done my so-called testing cycle, just one more ultrasound and round of bloodwork left to do before my follow up on July 22nd. Unless the Dr thinks we should wait, or if anything crops up with me that would affect TTC, I think we're going to try to get started right away.

    The only part of this process that I've been struggling with is that I feel like no control anymore. Before, it was up to us when we TTC, and now it's all in the hands of doctors who get to choose when we try.

    I do have one question for those of you who have already been through this, but do you know of any pros and cons to a natural vs. medicated IVF cycle? I'm just curious, because if we're going to do this, we want to do as much as we can to tip the odds in our favor.
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    I'm so sorry to hear that your husband is going through chemotherapy. I can only imagine how this must be for you both. I don't know a lot about natural IVF, however I would think your odds are higher going with a medicated cycle where you can retrieve more eggs which will give you a shot at more embryos, embryos you can transfer or freeze for future cycles. With a natural IVF you will be going through the retrieval and transfer with one, possibly two eggs. And with limited amount of sperm to use due to your circumstances you run the risk of having to do multiple attempts at IVF retrieval if a pregnancy didn't occur the first time. I *think* they typically use natural IVF for women who are poor responders (like I was). Someone will correct me if I'm wrong. I haven't done an IVF attempt since 2009, so I am definitely out-of-the-loop. I found this board very helpful when I was going through my IVF cycles. Wishing you all the best!

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    Hi jessica! So sorry about everything! I am praying that everything turns out fine!! I dont know anything about natural ivf since i need to be medicated in order to produce good eggs. I would research and see what is best for you. We will be starting soon too if my
    Blood and us are normal when i go in on the 15th! Maybe we will get our bfps together once again!!!!
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    Wow...you and DH are sure going through a lot at such a young age. I looked a tiny bit into natural IVF. It is quite a bit cheaper than a medicated cycle. What I learned is that you may have to go through a few natural cycles to get enough eggs to transfer. We decided against looking into it any further since the clinic that offered it was so far away. I would think if you have no problems with your eggs that a medicated cycle may be the best for you. IF treatments takes away any control you have. I always think IF happens to control freaks to remind them that you can't control everything in life. That's how I felt. It's tough and it's going to be tougher for you with everything both you and DH are going through. Hang onto each other and support each other. Good luck!

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    IVF #2-BFP 9wks-7/30/09 (6/09)
    IVF #3-BFN (5/10)

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    Thanks for all of the kind words everyone.

    Yes, we've got a lot on our plate right now, but I came across a saying that pops up from time to time that is something along the lines of "if everyone threw all of their problems into a pile and you could chose anyone else's set of problems, you'd probably want yours back." Don't quote me on that, I'm sure I messed part or all of it up, but still, I keep reminding myself of that saying. Life handed us a huge crap-sandwich, both halves at once, BUT we still know that we're very lucky.

    Lucky that we don't have to pay out of pocket for any of DH's treatment.
    Lucky that we own a home that's affordable enough for DH to take the time off that he needs and still survive on the reduced income.
    Lucky that we have supportive friends and family.
    VERY lucky that we have family that wants us to have a family almost as bad as we do and will contribute to the costs of fertility treatment.
    On top of it all, we're very lucky to have each other. We're paired up for a reason. He puts up with my crazy, and I can tough out any storm.

    DH starts round three of three on Monday, so the end of treatment is getting closer and closer. We go for my follow up at the fertility clinic on the 22nd, he has his last treatment on the 29th, and then fingers crossed that it's all smooth sailing from that point on!
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    You have a great attitude to get through all of this. Good luck to your DH on his last treatment.

    Meg-30 DH-42

    2 IUI's-BFN
    IVF #1-cancelled d/t embryos arresting before transfer (3/09)
    IVF #2-BFP 9wks-7/30/09 (6/09)
    IVF #3-BFN (5/10)

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