I'm not so new to pg.org, but new to the whole IVF thing. DH has cancer and is currently doing chemo. Fortunately, DH was able to bank some semen at the fertility clinic before he started for our future-family. The 'fresh' count was good, not great, but his post thaw count was not good at all. They measure out the deposit into 0.3ml 'straws' so they can thaw whatever we need, and the count on the straw that they thawed for testing was 100,000. We were told that to do an IUI they want at least 1 million, and therefore, in our case, we'd be using 10 of the 15 straws that are frozen. As a result, we were told that IVF would be our best option.
Sure, we could wait out DH's treatment and hope that he is part of the 50% that regains fertility, BUT in addition to those odds, we were advised not to try naturally for two years post-chemo due to the increased risks of birth defects. That was a blow that I wasn't expecting.
Anyways, on the way home from treatment today, DH asked when I'd like to start the IVF process. Initially, I was leaving the decision up to him because I know how I handle stress and I think we can do it, but didn't want to pressure him. I'm almost done my so-called testing cycle, just one more ultrasound and round of bloodwork left to do before my follow up on July 22nd. Unless the Dr thinks we should wait, or if anything crops up with me that would affect TTC, I think we're going to try to get started right away.
The only part of this process that I've been struggling with is that I feel like no control anymore. Before, it was up to us when we TTC, and now it's all in the hands of doctors who get to choose when we try.
I do have one question for those of you who have already been through this, but do you know of any pros and cons to a natural vs. medicated IVF cycle? I'm just curious, because if we're going to do this, we want to do as much as we can to tip the odds in our favor.