I've posted a few times but I guess I should come out of lurker mode and introduce myself. I'm 44 years old and have had 4 miscarriages in 2.5 years. All the pg's occurred without assistance - we failed 4 rounds of IUI - much more successful on our own! LOL
So, after tons of testing for me and DH- (sadly, none on the embryo's themselves) the medical verdict is that the mc's are most likely due to my age, and our doc feels DE or adoption are the way to go.
I am very frustrated by the fact that neither of the two clinics we are considering will give us *ANY* information about the size of their donor pool until we go through at least one or two very expensive appointments. Our insurance does not cover any of this expense, and you all know how expensive it is.
Of the two that we're considering, one is affiliated a local University and Medical Center and is highly qualified. Their pluses are their experience and their location. This group is very professional, but I don't click with the dr very well. He feels a little distant to me - not uncaring, but very reserved.
The other is a free-standing clinic started by some docs that were at the University Center originally and were trained in VA - they have been in the field for 20+ years so they're not inexperienced either. The pluses are that I clicked with the doc very well, and he impressed my husband (a scientist) with his knowledge and his ability to give stats. Their other big plus (to me) is that they are the first center to bring the use of frozen vitrified donor eggs to our area and because of that their costs are considerably lower. The docs doing the procedures have been trained by the original creators of the procedure, but they haven't done enough yet to have stats to publish at this clinic. Therefore, big cost savings for those willing to work with them. As in - up to 4 cycles with a money back guarantee for the same or less than one cycle with the U clinic.
So, ultimately we'll have to make this decision ourselves, but here are some questions.
1) Anyone here done/familiar with this type of DE? If so...as the recipient, my assumption is that there are fewer medications for me, since we don't have to synch a cycle. Is this true?
2) Did you let personal feelings about staff help you make your decision? I really like the dr at the 2nd center, however we were both turned off by the Donor coordinator. She was young and giggly and *soooooo* enthusiastic! Did I mention she giggled a lot? *eye roll*