Hello! My name is Veronica. I am 29 and DH is 30. We have 1 DS who just turned 3 on 10/2 and have been trying for #2 for a year now. I tried Femara with no success, I didn't even O on it. We did this with my regular OBGYN. With 3 cycles of nothing we were refered to an ER. We had our first appointment with him a couple weeks ago and I've just now taken in how the appointment went. I have had PCOS for a very long time. I was able to conceive DS with just Metformin (afters years and years of JLIH kinda thing. Had 1 MC prior to DS). Anyway, the doctor wants to go straight to IVF. He explained with injections and everything else because of the PCOS I have a much higher risk of over production (I don't really remember what he called it) but basically they have no way of controlling how many eggs I produce that way so he thinks IVF is safer for us. He is one of the best in the OKC Metro area and I've known many people who have gone to him and had great success.
Due to personal reasons and the cost, DH and I have decided to wait till at least the new year before we start this process. The Fertility clinic where he offices at offers financing and we will definitely have to take advantage of that in addition to saving money.
I'm looking forward to getting to know you and any advice you can give me now would be greatly appreciated.
I am a bit worried about this whole process. I know 3 people who went to him with twins and 1 with triplets. I'm afraid of the whole process itself as I understand it is extremely demanding physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, you name it.
Hi Veronica, Welcome! We are in similar boats. I hope this new refferal can bring much great success.
Welcome to the board!
This groups of ladies is the best support system there is! And because of all the pressures you mention, you will need them. Glad you found us!
Hi Veronica --- welcome. I hope that you'll be able to be successful with the new referral. IVF is physically, emtionally, mentally draining, but only for a short period of time. I thought the shots were going to be horrible....they are a piece of cake (but it did take me about 30 mins to do my first shot...lol --shots and i do not get along...i usually get all woozy and end up on the floor) and when you begin stimming, you will be bloated and uncomfortable, and there will be mointering apts (depending on ur clinic) like every other day, with an us and bldwrk...but, as time consuming as it is, the end result of a pregnancy is worth every tear drop, every laugh, every needle poke..... See also if your clinic gets samples or donated meds back -- that can help on the costs of meds, if insurance doesn't cover it. We were told that twins only hapen in like 20% of couples...so the odds are against ya ..... I was terrified of the idea of twins b4 we started, but now i'd be totally okay with twins, yeah it'd be super hard, but you make it work. Good luck!!
Nov FET- BFP!!
Olivia Evelyn Teodora 7/16/11 9lbs 10oz, 20in
April FET - BFP
My DECEMBER 2013 SNOWBUNNY is a GIRL!
Welcome Veronica!! You have come to an amazing place! These ladies here have helped me through so much. Even though DH and I have decided to be done with IVF, I still come back here to check on everyone. There is so much support and if you ever have any question, someone will have an answer for you. Hope your stay here is short and sweet
IVF #1-cancelled d/t embryos arresting before transfer (3/09)
IVF #2-BFP 9wks-7/30/09 (6/09)
IVF #3-BFN (5/10)
Welcome! I am sorry you are here, but you have found a great support group.
On TV, most high-order multiples (triplets, quads, qunits, etc) are from IUI or artificial insemination because you cannot control how many eggs ovulate for each cycle.
With IVF, you control how many embryos are transferred....whether you play it safe with 1, or take a risk and transfer 2 or more. Twins are still a possibility with 1 (identical), but the rate is pretty low. Just make sure your Dr doesn't pressure you to transfer more embryos than you can handle. I know my Dr's never suggested I transfer more than 2 at once base don my age, quality, etc. Others with different issues have opted for a higher number for better chances, and they knew there was risk to that decision, but it worked for them. Basically, do what feels right to you.
I just posted a thread similar to yours...read the posts have already been helpful. I know this is a difficult time, I will be sending you good thoughts.