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Farmer21's picture
Joined: 05/19/11
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Kinda bummed

So, when we met with the Dr & nurse in March for our first IVF consultation, DH and I were under the impression that we would be offered treatment during my next cycle - they said we normally would be waiting 3 to 4 months but we were going to be expedited. So, I had total expectations of getting a phone call last week. I called yesterday and left a message on the voicemail. I was in a meeting when they returned the call saying it normally takes 3 to 4 months. So, I called again and said, that I understood that was normal but we were under the impression that we were going to be faster due to what the Dr and nurse said. Still waiting for a phone call.

Sigh..... I know it's not the end of the world - but when you walk away thinking we wouldn't have to wait very long and now all of a sudden we do - it's disappointing.

Thanks for listening.
Harmony

meggyrn's picture
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I'm sorry they led you to believe that things were going to be different. I hope you can get some answers when they return your call.

DancingNancy's picture
Joined: 08/30/11
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It's expectation vs reality. Hopefully the people "in the know" will straighten things out for you. Waiting is hard, especially when it seems like you have already waited forever. Big hugs!

Farmer21's picture
Joined: 05/19/11
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Thanks - it could have been a misunderstanding on our end, I don't know. I hope to hear back today.... thanks for listening. I'm sure everyone goes through that "waiting sucks" period. :bigarmhug:

Farmer21's picture
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So, talked to the nurse - who was fantastic to talk to - and she explained that I probably wouldn't have been offered treatment as quickly as what we were understanding. She checked my chart for any notes and said that she put a note on my chart that they are to offer me treatment after I call in my May period - which would be my 3rd period after the consultation. So, at least I understand better - whether DH and I didn't get it at our appt or it was miscommunicated - who knows. It was 2 days of a lot of info Biggrin I feel a bit better now that I've talked to someone.

Thanks ladies!

meggyrn's picture
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Glad you were able to talk to the nurse and she was able to explain things and now you know better what to expect. That's great that she was so good to talk to.

Joined: 06/07/07
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*Lurker and Long time Harmony Supporter*

Harm,
I'm so sorry that this has become harder and longer than you and DH expected. A few more months aren't what's perfect, but you guys will get through it, plan more and be ready, healthy and able to go full force with your IVF. I'm so excited and praying for IVF to work for you and a little babe(s) to be in your arms in no time! You know I'll be flying out there if and when you have a babe in your arms. Stay strong and remember how wonderful and deserving you are. I know it's not enough, but it's got to be something.

xoxo

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Joined: 08/30/11
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Glad that you were able to talk to the nurse. I'm sorry that the wait is a little longer than you had wanted but glad that you are feeling at peace about it. It sounds like you have a great support system in place. I'm learning that that's very crucial in this process.

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*hugs* Harmony, I'm glad that they cleared up the confusion for you, but I'm sad that there was all this confusion and disappointed that you aren't on this cycle. I hope that 3 mths will go by quickly...or get a call sooner than that!

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Harmony, I'm sorry there was some confusion about how quickly the process would move. We had stalls in the process prior to our first cycle and I remember being incredibly disappointed. :bigarmhug:

Joined: 03/02/07
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Bummer. It is so hard to wait, when you've waited so long already! I hope the next few months speed by for you.