We were 21 when he proposed. I told him that if he didn't make things official I would start dating other people... this was after 3 years of dating/living together. Looking back, we did not need to be in a hurry - but I had to know that he cared about me and I wasn't wasting my best years on something that would not last. That was 11 years ago. Little did I know he was just trying to get enough money for the ring.
We spent a weekend out in Fort Worth, TX which is actually a really romantic town. We ate at a fancy restaurant, we went to a movie, a wine bar, etc. However, each place just didn't feel right. So, finally he proposed back at the hotel we were staying at.
What is funny is that a few years later I lost the diamond from that ring and I haven't really let him replace it. I've got more important priorities now.
Meg - I can understand your DH moving on quickly. My BIL remarried 14 months after my sister died. It was hard for my family but it was the right thing to do. I was in counselling at the time and the therapist I saw said that men who come from happy marriages tend to move on faster. I consider his second wife my SIL and her kids as my niece and nephew.
Margaret...I'm glad that you could feel safe with your husband while dating with all that you had gone through. He was a definate keeper!
I posted a reply to the moving on thing in the chat thread. It was too much to be in here.
IVF #1-cancelled d/t embryos arresting before transfer (3/09)
IVF #2-BFP 9wks-7/30/09 (6/09)
IVF #3-BFN (5/10)
Also, those who have really experienced love might have a better idea what they are looking for than those who have not.
Eric was 19 when he first said the L word - and he was drunk.