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    Hi,

    I have my first appointment with a fertility clinic in August and was wondering what kind of questions should I be asking. I want to get the most out of appointments, we have a 3 hour round trip to the clinic, hubby doesn't get sick days (he jokes he only gets dead days, he's been at his job just under 3 years and never had a sick day, they just aren't allowed to take them) and the appointments are expensive.
    My back story, December 2009 hubby and I decided it was a good enough time to TTC our first and surprise, a few weeks later we had a bfp and in September 2010 our DS was born. He was breech and I had to have a c section. I want a vbac and the head of maternity at my local hospital is useless and informed me I would have to have a repeat c section unless there was 2 full years between pregnancies, no chance to try for a vbac before that, meaning if I wanted my vbac I had to play their game and wait to TTC until DS was 2. About March last year I decided screw them we were TTC baby 2. I thought it might take a few months but never expected I would still be TTC. Early on I believe I had a chem pregnancy, but wasn't testing early so it wasn't confirmed. December and January I had two confirmed chem pregnancies, and I think another just this month. My local GP was being painful and wouldn't refer us to a specialist (long story I can go into if any one wants to hear it) so I saw my other GP in another town and was referred instantly, and here we are.

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    Welcome! So sorry for your losses and sorry you have to be here. The women hear are a wealth of knowledge. The RE is most likely going to try to figure out why you are having the CP. It could be low progesterone and you could just need a progesterone replacement once you have a positive pregnancy test. I'm sure he'll do lots of bloodwork. I would ask what he's thinking for the treatment plan. To me, it doesn't sound like you need to jump right to IVF. It's been such a long time since I've been through this so I'm trying to think of questions you could ask the RE. I'll come back if I think of any pertinent questions.

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    Hi an so sorry about everything you have gone through! I would just ask everything you can possibly think of. A lot of questions may not come up until after all BW and US's have been done, when the doctor has a clearer picture of what is going on.
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    I found that when I went to the RE that he gave me answers before I could even think of the questions. After the first appointment he emailed me some stuff that helped with what the tests were, IVF (although we were going for IUI). There were lots of blood tests for me, some for DH, SA for DH and then an hsg (checking tubes with dye) for me. Once all the tests were done then we met again to discuss how we were going forward.

    You can probably find lists of possible questions doing a search. Good luck.

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    I have all the info on the tests and what they may order, they send that out with the information package and registration forms. I know there will be quite a few bloods etc and I am hoping to be able to go to the lab that day and get most stuff done, as out local pathology can't do some of the tests so it would mean another trip up there just to have a test done and getting time off work is hard.
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    Make sure to write down all the questions you want to ask. Now you may think you'll remember them but once you get in the office and are sitting face to face with the RE all the questions will leave your brain. I've had it happen to me and I've seen it happen to pts when I worked in a clinic setting.

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    I have a whole folder set up for fertility things, all my brochures, info on tests, and a list of questions, answers when I get them, important info, charts etc, which I will take to every appointment to keep updated and so I can refer back.
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    Hi Angela,
    first appointments I have found varies depending on the Dr. (I am another QLD girl, and have seen 3 different re's over the years.) most will want to do a scan that day (be prepared for an internal u/s), some don't. Being able to show them what your normal cycle looks like is good. So knowing your average length is important. They will go through both your histories, including your last pregnancy and delivery. They will ask for bloods that day, possibly from both of you and possibly order a seaman test for hubby.
    Good luck. We have to to travel a distance too for appointments and sadly I am getting too used to it now.
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    Thanks Jodie,

    I am going through QFG, my GP said the doctor there is one of the best. I'm not even sure hubby will be at the appointment with me, he has asked for the day off but his boss doesn't give days off easily so there is a good chance it will be just me going. Hubby had an SA a few months ago and I have months and months of charts to take as well. We are hoping any testing we have to do we can do that day, especially if hubby comes and needs another SA as he doesn't drive and they can not collect samples for SA's in our town so he has to get back to that town again for another one. I'd like to have everything done as I know hubby has time off in mid September and I'd like to go back on the first day of those holidays for our follow up just because it makes life easier for all of us.
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    We did a couple of cycles with a dr from QFG (he was a not at a Brisbane clinic and will leave it at that), we did not like him at all in the end and went back to another Dr at Monash. So before you allow them to charge you a fortune, make sure you are comfortable with the dr and do not feel pressured to do things that you are not comfortable with.
    (Ps my hubby does not drive either. Makes for fun times at times.)
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