What to expect?

20 posts / 0 new
Last post
Clear Water's picture
Joined: 04/02/13
Posts: 20
What to expect?

I've done a lot of research on local IVF clinics, but I guess no amount of research can prepare you for whats really going to be happening.

Our situation isn't quite like most couples. We're doing reciprocal IVF, where the eggs will be transferred from one person to the other, but we'd like some insight into what kind of medications and procedures we should expect. We understand that the egg donor is going to have certain tests that need to be completed to obtain the eggs, and then as a surrogate there are certain tests and procedures that have to be done as well. It's all just been very overwhelming and any clarity would be very much appreciated.

TIA!!

grovey2's picture
Joined: 04/08/08
Posts: 938

dont have really much to offer, other then good luck!!! so, you're using a donor and a seperate surrogate? I'm not sure what that means for you...... but you're right taht both the donor and surrogate will be on meds....the surrogate's will be easier...as she'll be surpressing her ovaries....

Joined: 12/01/10
Posts: 997

Not as familiar with an egg donor and separate surrogate situation, but here is what I think may happen based on medications I was on. The person donating eggs will be on medications (BCP then shots in abdomen) first to suppress their body's natural cycle, then to stimulate egg production for eventual retrieval. They will be getting frequent blood tests to check hormone levels and transvaginal ultrasounds to check egg quantity and size while on these medications. The person acting as surrogate will take medications to suppress their own egg production but increase the uterine lining for embyro implantation. They will probably also have blood tests to check hormone levels and also have transvaginal ultrasound to check uterine lining thickness (and maybe make sure they have no eggs or cysts forming in their ovaries would also be my guess). They may have the surrogate continue to use progesterone (either as a shot in buttock or vaginal suppository) after embryo transfer and possibly a short while if become pregnant to keep progesterone levels up until the placenta produces enough progesterone on its own. As far as specific medications to be taken, that can vary clinic to clinic and even be tweaked with the same patient depending on results obtained.

Hope this helps. Good luck!

Christina

Clear Water's picture
Joined: 04/02/13
Posts: 20

Julie- kinda. Our situation isn't the same as most people's on this board and I don't really want to step on any toes as I know the need for IVF can be a sensitive subject.

reb2591020's picture
Joined: 09/20/09
Posts: 333

Wishing you luck... I have experience with DE but not with surrogate. If you have any DE questions, I would be happy to try to answer!

meggyrn's picture
Joined: 02/16/09
Posts: 2263

It sounds like all the PPs gave good advice and expectations. Good luck!

Joined: 12/01/10
Posts: 997

"Clear Water" wrote:

Julie- kinda. Our situation isn't the same as most people's on this board and I don't really want to step on any toes as I know the need for IVF can be a sensitive subject.

I hope you feel comfortable coming here for extra support while you go through your IVF journey Smile

Christina

Clear Water's picture
Joined: 04/02/13
Posts: 20

"xtinagreen" wrote:

I hope you feel comfortable coming here for extra support while you go through your IVF journey Smile

Christina

I really appreciate that Christina. We're a lesbian couple and I will be carrying my partners eggs due to her broken back. So IVf isn't an infertility issue for us, it's just the only way we'd be able to have a baby.

Joined: 12/01/10
Posts: 997

"Clear Water" wrote:

I really appreciate that Christina. We're a lesbian couple and I will be carrying my partners eggs due to her broken back. So IVf isn't an infertility issue for us, it's just the only way we'd be able to have a baby.

It can be such a crazy time of meds, appts, and other stuff and I remember being so glad that this board was around because in real life people are usually so quiet about undergoing IVF, etc so it can be hard to find people who have been through it. I live near you so if you have any questions about a particular clinic or doctors, you can private message me. My IUI and IVF cycles were about two years ago but I believe all of my doctors are still around though may be in separate clinics now.

Christina

Joined: 10/06/09
Posts: 183

Xtina, good luck! Do you have any dates yet?

Joined: 12/01/10
Posts: 997

"MrsChris" wrote:

Xtina, good luck! Do you have any dates yet?

Oops. Not us yet. We might try for a year and see if we have any luck on our own first.

mom2robbie's picture
Joined: 01/20/07
Posts: 2541

"Clear Water" wrote:

I really appreciate that Christina. We're a lesbian couple and I will be carrying my partners eggs due to her broken back. So IVf isn't an infertility issue for us, it's just the only way we'd be able to have a baby.

When I was going through my treatments there were lots of lesbian couples there. Actually I felt kind of stupid, it took me about 5 appointments to figure out why there were so many... I can be so clueless.... Good luck!

Clear Water's picture
Joined: 04/02/13
Posts: 20

LOL!! Now you know!

mom2robbie's picture
Joined: 01/20/07
Posts: 2541

"Clear Water" wrote:

LOL!! Now you know!

I did laugh at myself, it was pretty funny. I don't tend to really notice things going on around me but I kept hearing talk about recent weddings and so I paid a little more attention. I have gay and lesbian friends who have had children a variety of ways - IVF, surrogacy, adoption... however a child comes into your life is not important it is the love you give to them.

It is pretty funny, I come from a very conservative family (we are Mormons) who are very judgmental. I live in a province which is very conservative and judgmental and I am of the opinion that unless you are harming a child whatever your family makeup is not an issue. I am the rebel in my family Biggrin I do have to say that I am glad to be Canadian where "gay marriage" is just called marriage Smile

BTW, I figured out your situation from your first post Biggrin Again, good luck.

Margaret

Joined: 10/06/09
Posts: 183

Clear Water. My first thought was - Wow, there's going to be a lot of injecting going on at their house! Your partner will get all the stimulation meds/shots, you'll overlap in the middle and both be taking shots, and then lucky you gets to continue on the hormones for what seems like *forever*... though that could be because I'm projecting. LOL I've done 4 progesterone injections so far, and # 5 is today.

Here's hoping the emotional effects from the drugs don't hit either of you too hard. It's hard enough when one member of the household (me) is hyped up on hormones.

Clear Water's picture
Joined: 04/02/13
Posts: 20

I don't even know what all we'll need to do to get this done, it'll be interesting seeing her on hormones though, her emotional levels are pretty even most of the time so if she gets hormonal it might be kinda funny! Lol

mom2robbie's picture
Joined: 01/20/07
Posts: 2541

"Clear Water" wrote:

I don't even know what all we'll need to do to get this done, it'll be interesting seeing her on hormones though, her emotional levels are pretty even most of the time so if she gets hormonal it might be kinda funny! Lol

The hormones make you crazy... I thought I was going insane. My poor husband and son got a lot of yelling, crying, etc and we were only going through IUI...

Clear Water's picture
Joined: 04/02/13
Posts: 20

Oh boy!! lol

Joined: 12/01/10
Posts: 997

With both of you doing shots (hormonal swings aside Lol you will be better able to empathize with each other. I don't think my husband had any idea how much I felt like a pin cushion especially when I was up to three shots a day :o

Christina

Clear Water's picture
Joined: 04/02/13
Posts: 20

I think I'll be the only one empathizing until the drug phase is over. I'm pretty sure she'll be too busy freaking out that she's an emotional wreck hahaha