Those Hallmark movies make it look so easy! You follow the script! The decorations are up, soft carols play, the table is set with a bounty of food, and family and friends gather 'round -- and then? someone makes a dig; someone else defends; yet another jumps in the fray to add their thoughts. It escalates to the point that inevitably one or more end in tears and/or angry. This year, try reading our feature "Avoiding the annual holiday family free-for-all." After all, this is your special day too!