We've all been there. The moment someone says something hurtful about the loss of our baby. I say it's time to hold our heads high, reclaim our privacy and space, and let people know that what they say is not acceptable. Learn how to educate "the ignorant," "the indignant" and "the idiot" so their next response can help heal a friend facing pregnancy loss.

As many as 25 percent of all pregnancies end in miscarriage, half of them before the woman even realizes she is pregnant. Fortunately, most women who miscarry, even more than once, can become pregnant again and give birth to a healthy baby. Read "Miscarriage Facts" to learn more.

QUESTION

Dear Midwife,
I had a very rare cervical pregnancy at 6 weeks. It was my second pregnancy, first was perfectly fine. No history of miscarriages. I was admitted into the hospital and had potassium chloride injected into the gestational sac to stop the heartbeat of the fetus. I have been having methotrexate injections and 4 days after receiving the KCL I had to have methotrexate injected in the remaining tissue still dividing. Today my hCg levels decreased from 21000 to 17000, I will be monitored to make sure they get back to zero. I had 5 doses (63 mg) of methotrexate.

Fear is described in the dictionary as "to be afraid of" -- a very simple explanation. But what do you do when the one thing you want most in the world is also the one thing you fear most in the world? The answer is you live in fear. Read "Fear - Trying Again" to find out more.

Well, as it turns out, I had another miscarriage. I had to wait to write this entry until 2 weeks after the fact because I was so emotional and angry that this happened to me again within the time frame of 3 months. 2 miscarriages in 3 months time. It is extremely heartbreaking, words just can't describe the amount of emotional pain, frustration and anger that goes along with this. I've had several talks with my doc about the why's and he firmly believes that we have just had a bad roll of the dice twice in a row.

QUESTION

Dear Dr. Laura,
My fiancé and I found out that we were just under 5 weeks pregnant just over a month ago, it was unexpected, and unplanned, but we accepted it and wanted it. Both his parents and my parents do not have grand children yet, so therefore they were more than excited to hear the news.

Who knew that there are so many reasons to be angry after a miscarriage? I am a mental health care professional so I am well acquainted with the stages of grief. I was not shocked by my shock. I expected and allowed my sadness. What I was not prepared for, however, was the depth and breadth of my anger. I am ANGRY. I am angry with any pregnant woman who has the audacity to be within a 30 foot radius of me.

QUESTION

Dear Midwife,
Hopefully you can help solve a question I have had for a while now that has been eating me alive.

Recently I got pregnant or think I did but I guess thats kind of my question so I'll try to explain.

I took about 9 or ten pregnancy tests and they all came out positive. Panicking of course, I figured I would go to the doctor to make sure I was actually pregnant. They gave me an in office test and it came out that yes I was indeed pregnant.