When a miscarriage occurs, probably one of the most difficult and most painful tasks is that of breaking the news to family members and friends that the baby you had once been so excited about is now only part of a broken dream. Don't try to be a hero and hide your own feelings.
Grief and Loss
Many fathers, however, have experienced the devastation of losing a child, and there seems to be an almost non-existent recognition of the fact that fathers suffer from feelings of lost dreams, loneliness, failure, and loss of identity when a child has died.
One of the biggest devastations any mother can experience is when she goes to the doctor fully expecting to hear the sound of her baby's heart beating, and instead, the room echoes only silence. There are no words that can come close to explaining the emptiness.
For most people, initiating a conversation with the bereaved is one of the scariest, most intimidating, most anxiety-producing tasks they could think of. So scary that most people don't do it, or they do it so badly they swear they never will again. But...
Even though no one can take away your pain or struggle, there are things to do that will make the holidays less stressful and more enjoyable. By implementing the following, you can begin to regain control and take some very positive steps toward loss recovery.
After a loss, surviving siblings have fears, needs, and anxieties that must be explored and addressed if the child is to avoid negative long term consequences. Explore what's normal and how you can help.
The holiday season can be all the more difficult when you have experienced a loss of a loved one.
It all started with Emilee getting sick mid September. Long story short, she ended up being hospitalized on September 28th. After all the stress that night, I found I was getting my period. It was kind of the straw that broke the camels back. I just lost it.
It has been a hard day for me. A very emotional day. I got a reminder call yesterday from my OB's office reminding me of my appointment for Wednesday for an ultrasound. To me, this was so insensitive.
Here I sit on New Years Eve. It is 11:20 pm, Emilee is asleep, Jim is at work and I am alone. What a depressing way to welcome in the New Year isn't it? I think out of the 6 New Years Jim and I have been together, we have spent 2 with each other.