If you share holidays with your ex, you may be facing a holiday alone this season without your child. It can be difficult to be separated from your child, but you can get through the holiday with these guidelines:
It's too easy for the holidays to become a challenge, to see which parent can buy the most stuff, the best stuff, or the most expensive stuff. You and the other parent have to make sure this doesn't happen to you and your child.
No one wins in a custody case, especially not the child. The best custody arrangement is one that takes the child's needs into consideration and creates a plan that allows the child to have a lot of time with both parents through a non-hectic, reasonable schedule.
It's not uncommon to start a new job, move, make new friends, discover new interests, develop a new life philosophy, and, really, in many ways, be reborn after a divorce. If you feel uncomfortable with changes in the other parent's life, ask yourself these questions:
Your child is living in two separate homes now. Should he have household responsibilities at both homes? Setting similar requirements at both homes sends the message to a child that although you are parenting in separate homes, you still have the same standards and do still parent together.
If you have children ages eight and up, they probably see a lot about divorce on TV. And frankly most of it is not good. TV shows, movies, and news reports frequently focus on the dark side of divorce.
An important part of most parenting arrangements has to do with money. Money is a pretty dicey area for a divorced couple to begin with, but when you mix money with parenting, you often end up with a powder keg. Use these tips to make things more manageable.
Setting up and living with a parenting plan is a big change for everyone. All of you must get used to a new schedule. Perhaps the hardest part though, is learning to handle how you feel about visitation.
The key to making a co-parenting arrangement successful is respect. You likely have a lot of bad feelings towards the other parent, but you need to find a way to separate your parenting from those feelings. Your goal is to create a good life for your child and you can do that by parenting together in a respectful and cooperative manner.
As if divorce isn't hard enough, it can be even more complicated when you are trying to work out custody of an adopted child. Adoption often makes the situation emotionally more difficult for the child, and may make you concerned about what your rights are.