No matter what you may think about divorce. No matter what you may feel about divorce. No matter what your situation or experience, life will change for you and your children. Follow these guidelines of how you can help them cope.
by DK Simoneau
So you think you're moving along and adapting to your new split-family living situation. Then what do you spy on your calendar? Thanksgiving doesn't fall on Tuesday? It doesn't fall on Saturday, Sunday or Monday either. What can you do to make split-family living better during the holidays?
"Doing the kid shuffle." Today it means helping them cope with living in two homes with two sets of rules, and often two sets of belongings. Here are ten ways you can help your child cope with this split-family living lifestyle:
It's no one's dream to be a single parent, but since half of all marriages do end in divorce and at least as many unmarried couples break up, single parenting is reality for many mothers. Arranging visitation is easiest if you remain flexible and patient.
A few months into their efforts to create a positive blended family experience, they realized it wasn't working. Strained relationships, marriage stress, and conflict abounded. Sadly, much of the family tension that existed was preventable.
I often hear from women concerning their husband's kids from a prior relationship. They notice that Dads who don't live with their kids find it challenging to stay connected, and describe the difficulties of integrating these kids into the family when they come to visit.
Dear Child Psychologist,
I am concerned that my boyfriend doesn't spend enough time with his children. At times we have discussions about this topic, and he states that they don't like him, and that they are always crying for their mothers. I have experienced such an instance, with his youngest child. However, after I had a motherly like discussion with his child the little boy was ok. We were all just fine, and the young boy even stayed the night without any discomfort.
I have a stepdaughter that I'm really struggling with. She's age 15 and has life figured out. I really DO care about her, but know she is heading down the wrong path. I'm really not trying to be judgmental, but know that I may be seen that way. I just don't feel like a 15-year-old is qualified to set ALL her own limits.