Ask the Child Psychologist

3 1/2 year old Anxiety and Other Issues

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QUESTION

Dear Dr. Laura,
My 3.5 year old son seems to have some trouble in a couple of areas. He has a lot of anxiety and fear as well as sleeping and eating problems.

I am a SAHM, he doesn't go to preschool or daycare. I never leave him with other people to take care of. There is no one who is suffering that he's aware of at all or any tragedies. We're a pretty balanced, happy family, and this is why I can't figure out what's the issue.

Concerned About 5-year-old Behavior

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QUESTION

Dear Dr. Laura,
My son is a high needs kid. We have, for the most part, been able to manage his outbursts. Today at school we were called because he told two separate children that he wanted them to be dead. After the first time I sat down and talked with him in the quiet area and did believe that he understood how important it was not to say things like that. After I left he said it again to a different child. The day care is very concerned and did stress that in public school he would most likely be sent home if it happened there.

The Terrible One's: Tantrums

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QUESTION

Dear Dr. Laura,
My son is 11 months old. When things don't happen the way he wants them to he throws a fit. He will hit you, throw things and flat out scream for hours if you don't do what he wants. It's hard to know what he wants because he can't talk.

I know he can't talk to express. I just want to know what I can do to make things better, and make him happy. Please help me, I don't know what to do.

Concerned Mother

Lost Father to Drunk Driver

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QUESTION

Dear Dr. Laura,
When my oldest son was 19 months old his father was killed by a drunk driver. He's now 3 years old going on 4 and knows his fathers picture when he sees it and knows that daddy is in heaven with angels. Lately though he's started asking if he could go to heaven to see his daddy.

I'm personally still a wreck over the accident and am not sure how I should be discussing his fathers death with him especially since I usually start to cry. Should I keep talking to him about his daddy or should I be holding off until he is older?

Eighteen-Month-Old's Reaction to New Baby

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QUESTION

Hi Dr. Laura,
I have an adorable eighteen-month-old boy. A month ago I had my second little boy. My eighteen-month-old has always had the sweetest most easy going temperament. He was so fun loving and easy to take care of. After the baby was born he had no negative reactions.

Now, a month later, he has undergone a complete personality change. He is cranky most of the day and just spends a lot of time whining and crying.

Interestingly enough, he seems to like the baby. He likes to look at him and hold him.

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