I'll admit up front that I'm biased against Ferbering. As an attachment psychologist, I believe that babies need to be picked up when they cry. I have found that there are kinder, gentler ways to teach babies to put themselves to sleep.
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The Challenge: Now that you don't have a brand new baby, you expect yourself to pull your life together and get a grip. NOT likely! So what should be a priority?
Your challenge? Learning everything about your baby when he was delivered without an owner's manual -- and as soon as you figure it out, he changes! Renegotiating your entire life. Here's a parent's gameplan.
What do babies need? Their parents. Not the cute baby clothes you got at the shower. Not the baby swing, or seat, or crib. Not even diapers. You may need all that. But your baby needs his parents.
Once the baby learns that her caretakers are reliably nurturing and protective, she builds on this internal security as she proceeds to the next developmental task of exploration, matery of the environment, and forming relationships with others.
Feeding your baby real solid food after six months of breastmilk (or formula) is an exciting time, for you and for him. As you approach this transition, there are some questions you'll want to ask yourself.
Toddlers don't seem to have an off switch. Often, when they're tired, they just reverberate faster, like an overwound toy, until they crash. Reading your toddler's cues so you can ensure she gets enough sleep can be a challenge.
I knew that new parents were supposed to be sleep deprived, but I had never expected anything like this. What's the best sleep strategy for exhausted new parents? How can you be there when you baby needs you, but still get some rest?
Welcome to Planet Parenthood, where the sleep is scarce but the love will blow you away. Your newborn may seem to be mostly eating and sleeping, but he or she is actually tackling some complicated developmental tasks: