My partner wants a hospital birth complete with an OB/GYN. My preference is a home birth with a midwife but I was willing to compromise on using a birth center. He's not budging.
What are some ways that I can help him move away from this sterile birth experience to one that I'm more comfortable with other than just telling him "I'm not doing it!" and creating another war?
I get that is how his sisters and friends' wives delivered but this is MY birth experience, too!
I recommend watching Orgasmic Birth, available through the Pregnancy.org website. It is a great way to see the natural way of birthing both at home and in a hospital.
He's probably petrified that something may go wrong and you'll be stuck at home. It may also be worthwhile hiring a doula to come and spend an hour with you both to talk about home birth. She would be someone who is non biased but can answer his questions. He may also be more comfortable with a home birth if a doula was present.
I understand his concerns, given its your first birth. Chances are he will be more open to a home birth for number two when he is more relaxed about the whole process.
Hope this helps!
Troy Jones: Troy's company produced the Being Dad series and he has traveled the globe interviewing hundreds of new dads and experts. As a result we like to think of him as a "well renowned global guru in all things Being Dad;" sounds impressive anyway. Troy has a beautiful daughter Matilda, who appears in the Being Dad series.
Sam Holt: Best known for coming up with a new idea every five minutes it's little wonder that Being Dad was, in fact, his idea. Fortunately, Being Dad was one of Sam's better ideas and with the help of Troy and Tom it has grown way beyond all of their expectations. Sam has a son, Hugo, who is too cute to be his.
Tom Hastwell: Lured out of the corporate world by Sam and Troy, Tom has been bitten by the business bug. Troy and Sam are eagerly awaiting news that Toms wife is pregnant so that they can attach a camera crew to him for nine months and actually put him to work. Tom is currently practicing for kids.