I am just wondering if there is a sure-fire way to get pregnant. My husband and I are newlyweds and we want to get pregnant. We have been trying for a few months now, and it just isn't working. I have heard that it does take time, but we would like to help push it along.
He thinks it might be a problem on his part. He isn't a very large man, so he thinks that it might have to do with not being able to "shoot" as far as he needs to during ejaculation. Could that be a problem?
Also, is it normal to get unbearable pains during ovulation? My husband is very worried. I said that it's normal because I've been getting those pains since I can remember
The pains during ovulation are normal, and some women feel them more than others. At least you know when you are ovulating! If you do not get pregnant after trying for a year, and your husband's test is normal, you may want to begin the tests available for women.
The size of your husband is probably not the problem, if there even is one. If he is concerned, he can take a test to analyze his sperm that is pretty simple and not too expensive. You might try using something like Pregnancy.org's Ovulation tool to make sure you are ovulating and that you are having intercourse at the best time. 85% of couples will conceive the first year they try.
-- Cynthia, CNM. PhD.
Cynthia Flynn, CNM. PhD, is the General Director of the Family Health and Birth Center which provides prenatal, birth, postnatal, gynecological and primary health care to underserved women and their families in Washington, D.C. Recently Cynthia served as Associate Professor of Nursing at Seattle University. There she not only taught, but remained in full scope clinical midwifery practice at Valley Medical Center where she cared for pregnant and birthing women, and practices well-woman gynecology, family planning, and treatment of sexually transmitted diseases.
Cynthia founded Columbia Women's Clinic and Birth Center, where she took care of pregnant women and infants up to two weeks of age and attended both birth center and hospital births. Before Cynthia earned her CNM, she worked as a registered nurse in labor and delivery and postpartum and is a certified Doula and Doula trainer.