Baby's Father Does Drugs


Dear Midwife,
I just found out that my boyfriend (the baby's father) takes drugs in his system. He takes cocaine.

I want to know if that will affect my baby by my pregnancy, and how?


I'm not sure I know. The only ways I can think it would was if the cocaine damaged the sperm that got you pregnant (unlikely), or you were around when he was snorting and you inhaled some yourself.

The bigger point is that it will definitely affect your baby to have an addicted father. You might consider changing him to just a "sperm donor" until he has been totally clean (no slips) for at least six months; your baby does not need this stuff in his/her life, and you are the one who will need to protect the baby.

-- Cynthia, CNM. PhD.

Cynthia Flynn

Cynthia Flynn, CNM. PhD, is the General Director of the Family Health and Birth Center which provides prenatal, birth, postnatal, gynecological and primary health care to underserved women and their families in Washington, D.C. Recently Cynthia served as Associate Professor of Nursing at Seattle University. There she not only taught, but remained in full scope clinical midwifery practice at Valley Medical Center where she cared for pregnant and birthing women, and practices well-woman gynecology, family planning, and treatment of sexually transmitted diseases.

Cynthia founded Columbia Women's Clinic and Birth Center, where she took care of pregnant women and infants up to two weeks of age and attended both birth center and hospital births. Before Cynthia earned her CNM, she worked as a registered nurse in labor and delivery and postpartum and is a certified Doula and Doula trainer.