I just had a second trimester miscarriage. This was my first baby and the doctor came in and told me that I had an incompetent cervix. Then I read the article in this site that sounded similar to my case. I'm just wondering if I'm going to be able to conceive a healthy baby. What can I do? I'm very confused.
I am SO sorry for your loss. Those of us who care for pregnant women know that these things happen occasionally, but it is never easy for anyone who is involved, but especially for the parents. I would encourage you to change your language a little bit. It sounds like you DID conceive a healthy baby, which is more than some couples are able to do.
The issue for you is whether you can carry that baby to term. What you are being told is that your chances might be improved if you get something called a cerclage put in at about 14 weeks. This is a stitch that holds your cervix together until the baby is full term. Then it is removed and you can labor normally. I don't know for sure that it would be required in your individual case, but it does sound like there is reason for hope. Good luck!
-- Cynthia, CNM