Can I Get Pregnant from Dry Sex?


Dear Midwife,I am 17 and I really need to know if I could be pregnant but I did not have sex. We just basically had dry sex, he had his boxers on and I had THIN shorts on. We stopped because I realized what I was doing was not safe and yes he did pre-cum.

Anyway I was suppose to get my period the next day and the past few days I have felt like I was going to start but I haven't. I have just been spotting brown discharge. I am 3 days late and it has been 5 days since we did this and I know there is no way to tell if I am pregnant is there? I just don't think there is any possible way that I should have this baby and I don't know if I am still eligible for a pill. Please respond. Thanks.


The morning after pill is best used within 72 hours, so that is not an option. But IF the only time you nearly had intercourse was a day before you expected your period, then it is unlikely that you are pregnant, as you had probably ovulated long before. It is probably just the stress that is making your period late.

Let's hope so! And meanwhile, you might consider getting on reliable birth control.

-- Cynthia, CNM


Can I get pregnant from dry sex?

Hi. My boyfriend and I were dry humping a couple of weeks ago and he had boxers on and I had jeans and underwear. When I checked he was wet and we dry bumped for a whole whilst he was wet like that and I think he came whilst he was on top of me but I can't remember. Now my period is late and I'm freaking out because I think I'm pregnant. I read online that you can't get pregnant from dry sex because the sperm can't swim through layers of clothing but I also read that they can swim through if the clothing is wet and I'm too scared to do a pregnancy test or buy one or go to the doctor so any help offered is beyond greatly appreciated. Many thanks.

Cynthia Flynn

Cynthia Flynn, CNM. PhD, is the General Director of the Family Health and Birth Center which provides prenatal, birth, postnatal, gynecological and primary health care to underserved women and their families in Washington, D.C. Recently Cynthia served as Associate Professor of Nursing at Seattle University. There she not only taught, but remained in full scope clinical midwifery practice at Valley Medical Center where she cared for pregnant and birthing women, and practices well-woman gynecology, family planning, and treatment of sexually transmitted diseases.

Cynthia founded Columbia Women's Clinic and Birth Center, where she took care of pregnant women and infants up to two weeks of age and attended both birth center and hospital births. Before Cynthia earned her CNM, she worked as a registered nurse in labor and delivery and postpartum and is a certified Doula and Doula trainer.