Can You Have Sex During Pregnancy?


Dear Midwife,
I am in my 14 weeks pregnant. Is it safe to have sex because every time I did, I always have some spotting. Usually it is slightly pink, but today it's red.

Should I stop having sex? Should I go to the doctor for checking up?

Thank you for your help.


Any bleeding during pregnancy should be reported immediately to your provider. If it happens after intercourse, it usually just means that a little capillary on the cervix was broken, and we don't worry about it. But you may need an exam to verify that is what is happening. It is best to go in when you are actually bleeding so your provider can see what is causing the problem. Hopefully, it is nothing serious.

-- Cynthia, CNM

Cynthia Flynn

Cynthia Flynn, CNM. PhD, is the General Director of the Family Health and Birth Center which provides prenatal, birth, postnatal, gynecological and primary health care to underserved women and their families in Washington, D.C. Recently Cynthia served as Associate Professor of Nursing at Seattle University. There she not only taught, but remained in full scope clinical midwifery practice at Valley Medical Center where she cared for pregnant and birthing women, and practices well-woman gynecology, family planning, and treatment of sexually transmitted diseases.

Cynthia founded Columbia Women's Clinic and Birth Center, where she took care of pregnant women and infants up to two weeks of age and attended both birth center and hospital births. Before Cynthia earned her CNM, she worked as a registered nurse in labor and delivery and postpartum and is a certified Doula and Doula trainer.