Confused About Conception Date


Dear Midwife,
My boyfriend and I had a slip up in September and ever since then my menstrual was acting funny.

September it came late and much shorter then normal October it didn't come at all or so late that it came on the 1st of November once again for a short period of time then I had spotting for a day or two mid-November. Now December

I've been having some brown spotting off and on for the past 2-3 weeks. Throughout all of this I've been having pains on the right side of my pelvic area since the beginning of October.

I took a pregnancy test in the beginning of October with a negative result, another in November to get another negative result but just a week ago I took another one and got a positive result.

What is wrong? Could be ectopic or could the baby be dying, hence the brown mucusy spotting and the sharp pains only on my right side?


The only way to tell for sure what is going on is to get prenatal care. They can get a more detailed history, and maybe do some tests, but in any event they will be able to help you.

And since there is a small chance that those pains are indeed related to an ectopic, it would be a good idea to be seen sooner rather than later.

Good luck, and congratulations!

--Cynthia, CNM

Cynthia Flynn

Cynthia Flynn, CNM. PhD, is the General Director of the Family Health and Birth Center which provides prenatal, birth, postnatal, gynecological and primary health care to underserved women and their families in Washington, D.C. Recently Cynthia served as Associate Professor of Nursing at Seattle University. There she not only taught, but remained in full scope clinical midwifery practice at Valley Medical Center where she cared for pregnant and birthing women, and practices well-woman gynecology, family planning, and treatment of sexually transmitted diseases.

Cynthia founded Columbia Women's Clinic and Birth Center, where she took care of pregnant women and infants up to two weeks of age and attended both birth center and hospital births. Before Cynthia earned her CNM, she worked as a registered nurse in labor and delivery and postpartum and is a certified Doula and Doula trainer.