Doctor Unsupportive in Twin Pregnancy

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QUESTION

I went for an ultrasound at 5 weeks and 4 days (baby A's measurements) baby B was 5 weeks 2 days. All that was showing on the transvaginal ultrasound were the 2 sacs -- no yolks, poles or heartbeats which the technician said is very normal for that early on.

Anyway I went for my follow up appointment 2 days later with my general practitioner. He is a very rude, arrogant type and very bluntly said, "Don't be suprised in the follow up scan if one of the sacs has perished and there is only one baby."

Now what would the chances of this be? What I mean is there is no reason for one of them not to be viable, I am now 7 weeks and 5 days and have my ultrasound at 8 weeks and 1 day. I've had no cramping, no spotting or bleeding, horrible morning sickness...so all good signs there will be 2 healthy babies, right?

We conceived naturally and it was our dream to have twins so we are over the moon but the doctor's words just keep going around in my head.

ANSWER

Hello,
First off, congratulations on conceiving twins! You have two little souls starting out together inside of you. It sounds like you have come across an insensitive general practitioner. He jumped straight into quoting statistics to a happy mommy-to-be who was filled with joy.

You are right to say there would be no reason to believe one embryo would not make it from the picture you have painted for me. I believe leaving the medical science out of early pregnancy and the statistics that accompany twins, out of the first couple months of pregnancy in a mother's mind. Twins are always considered a high risk pregnancy and I think your doctor was letting you know this in a matter of fact way.

My beliefs are strong when I say that a mommy-to-be should stay positive and stress free when it comes to her pregnancy. Leave the all the counting of days, and hormones and statistics to the medical experts. Your job is to stay healthy and happy.

My request to you is to push the doctors words to the back of your mind and change the language of "it was our dream" to "it is our dream to have twins." Thoughts are powerful so manifest what you want.

With Regards,
Jane Foley RDMS