Does Crying a Lot Hurt My Baby?

QUESTION

Dear Midwife,
I have cried hard a lot during my pregnancy and I would like to know if it will hurt my baby. My husband and I argue a lot. Would that hurt the baby?

Thank you,
Claudia

ANSWER

When you are stressed, you make hormones that are not wonderful for you OR the baby. It sounds like you need some help, and fast, especially if the arguments include any verbal abuse or any pushing or hitting.

A new baby will create even more pressures on you both than you already have. Your clergy, health care provider or even healthy friends may be able to help. For the sake of your family, please do get some help right away.Read more about stress and pregnancy in this article.

-- Cynthia, CNM

Cynthia Flynn

Cynthia Flynn, CNM. PhD, is the General Director of the Family Health and Birth Center which provides prenatal, birth, postnatal, gynecological and primary health care to underserved women and their families in Washington, D.C. Recently Cynthia served as Associate Professor of Nursing at Seattle University. There she not only taught, but remained in full scope clinical midwifery practice at Valley Medical Center where she cared for pregnant and birthing women, and practices well-woman gynecology, family planning, and treatment of sexually transmitted diseases.

Cynthia founded Columbia Women's Clinic and Birth Center, where she took care of pregnant women and infants up to two weeks of age and attended both birth center and hospital births. Before Cynthia earned her CNM, she worked as a registered nurse in labor and delivery and postpartum and is a certified Doula and Doula trainer.