Hoping to Not Be Pregnant

QUESTION

My boyfriend and I got a little carried away the other night and he rubbed his penis on my labia and I know for a fact that he didn't ejaculate but he did have some pre-cum. I'm not sure if it was there before or after he rubbed on me but I'm worried I could be pregnant.

After it happened about 10 minutes later I went to the bathroom and wiped a lot hopping anything that was there I would wipe out. I normally get my period every 28 days and its very regular and lasts four or five days.

I got my period a day early and the very next day after all this happened it was very light though and the next day it was I little heavier but not by much I have some clots like usual but I've only been using one tampon all day instead of two. Today is day 3 of my "period" and it is even lighter then the first day. I'm really worried this could be spotting and I am pregnant.

Am I or is it not possible based on the circumstances?

ANSWER

If all this happened two days before your period was due, then it is unlikely that you became pregnant, as you had probably already ovulated much earlier in the month. With a 28-day cycle, ovulation usually occurs about 14 days after the first day of your period and lasts 1-2 days.

That said, it is very important that BOTH of you start using good contraception immediately. As you point out, pre-cum can get you pregnant, even without penetration, and you have already crossed the line into territory where you both need to be protected. Please get the help you need.

~Cynthia

Cynthia Flynn

Cynthia Flynn, CNM. PhD, is the General Director of the Family Health and Birth Center which provides prenatal, birth, postnatal, gynecological and primary health care to underserved women and their families in Washington, D.C. Recently Cynthia served as Associate Professor of Nursing at Seattle University. There she not only taught, but remained in full scope clinical midwifery practice at Valley Medical Center where she cared for pregnant and birthing women, and practices well-woman gynecology, family planning, and treatment of sexually transmitted diseases.

Cynthia founded Columbia Women's Clinic and Birth Center, where she took care of pregnant women and infants up to two weeks of age and attended both birth center and hospital births. Before Cynthia earned her CNM, she worked as a registered nurse in labor and delivery and postpartum and is a certified Doula and Doula trainer.